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First of all, I'm 5'8 but I'm not insecure at all. So give it to me straight, I promise I can handle it.

So I have this theory that girls mainly like taller guys because they generally feel more protected around tall dudes. But this feeling doesn't always hold much weight in the real world.

I agree that with the average 6'3 dude vs the average 5'8 dude, the 6'3 dude has a weight and reach advantage if they were to fight. But I'm not talking about averages.

Let's say you had to pick the most attractive guy out of two guys to date.

Guy A: He is 5'8, but is bigger and stronger than most guys. He does strength training and MMA and has been doing so for a long time. He can beat 99% of guys since most guys have no training whatsoever. And just to clarify, he is not steroid-like bodybuilder type big. He is natural and athletic.

Guy B: He is 6'3, lives a mostly sedentary lifestyle. He might do a sport that's more cardio-based like cycling or whatever. He's pretty skinny, but not to the point you think he is sick. Just average skinny. He's not a pussy, he is willing to fight when push comes to shove. He just has no real experience so against Guy A he wouldn't stand a chance.

You are objectively safer with Guy A.

Let's assume for the sake of this question, that both guys have same facial features and everything. Just a different body-composition and height. They also have the same personality, just different skills.

Also please ignore other factors. For example: "Guy A probably lives in the gym and I wouldn't like that"

I can also understand if you are a girl who is taller than 5'8 it might be a turn-off. If that's the case please assume Guy A is your height or an inch taller and add the same amount of height to Guy B.

Looking forward to hearing your opinions!

There have been a few times in my life where I dated women who had “school girl” crushes on me. However they later quickly bailed when they got to know the real me.

I am not a psycho or anything. I am definitely a deep thinker and can be sensitive about things. I got some depression but I’ve always been independent both financially and emotionally. I get support from friends but I know it’s ultimately up to me to fix my own issues.

Anyway I’ve improved on how showed my lesser sides to women as I have gotten older. Gotten better at being careful about what emotions I will show women vs. which ones I’ll keep a lid on. Especially when it comes to insecurities

But I can remember dating a few women in the past who were initially head over heels for me because of the fantasy they had in their head about who they thought I was. Sure it felt good initially. They often pursued me and made dating easy. No problem getting laid in that scenario (usually their idea). They also would act seemingly supportive and tolerant of my personality. But this always ended bad. Very bad. One girl ghosted me after dating for 9 f*cking months. And all while I was dating I was aware they might just be daydreaming only to do a 180 later when their “emotions” changed.

But there have been a few women I pursued just to discover issues with them later that was less than pleasant. It was a turn off but I never did a quick 180 immediately just because they didn’t match up to the original image I had of them in my head.