How do I get over the regret of choosing the "bad" girl over the good girl?

[Anonymous]

A year ago, there were two girls (two friends) interested in me. Let's call them Girl A and Girl B. I initially was interested in girl A because she was really hot. I chatted to her for a bit, then realised our personalities weren't meshing/she was a bit boring to talk to. I was still texting her, then girl B started chatting me up. Girl B love-bombed me and was really fun to talk to, we had a lot of chemistry and I ended up falling for her and we got into a relationship. But she cheated on her boyfriend to be with me.

Well, our relationship started off really well, but as it went on I realised I picked the wrong girl. My girlfriend got more and more toxic, became jealous and controlling, and I realised that her friend is a nicer person than her. It turned into an abusive relationship. She also treated her friend (Girl A) really badly.

We've broken up now, but I can't help feeling regret at not choosing girl A in the first place. She was the better choice and a better person, but I couldn't see it back then. She was also more of my type physically in the first place. How do I get over the regret?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel regret over past decisions, especially when they have led to negative consequences. However, it's important to remember that you made the decision based on the information and feelings you had at the time, and you cannot change the past.

Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on the present and the future. Take time to reflect on what you've learned from this experience and how you can use that knowledge to make better decisions in the future. Consider what qualities and values are important to you in a partner and focus on finding someone who embodies those qualities.

It's also important to take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed, and focus on engaging in activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment.

Remember, it's never too late to make positive changes in your life and move forward from past mistakes.

[Sparkie460]

You just have to put it behind you, move on and don't look back. There's a reason why the windshield on a car is much bigger than the rear view mirror. What is in front of you is more important than what's behind you. Put the past behind you and concentrate on your future

[Anonymous]

find someone and make your life. what happened then is irrelevant, can't even say you learned something because in reality doesn't matter who you meet next, you don't know how they will be in 5 or 10 years from now. Just move on.

[FilmGuy93]

Learn your lessons and try to apply them moving forward.