Guys, Is being a single mom an issue?

[Anonymous]

Is a nearly 30 mom of a two year old a complete turn off for all guys, or does personality and compatibility mean more?

[Guy13]

For a single man, more times than not, dating a single parent has more consequences. Single guys are limited in Time, Availability, and "Quality" of relationship by dating a single parent. A decent guy realizes he is dating into Daddyhood.

Some guys do not like being second and do not do well when dating a single Mom.

[Miristheiss]

I would have never dated a single mom.

I had a cousin try and set me up once and I was initially going to meet her but I pulled out when I found out she had been married before.

When I was single I dated 100% single women with zero kids who had never been married. No exceptions. I'm not taking on some other kid when I haven't even had my own kids yet, I'm not going to be someone's 2nd husband when I've not been married yet.

Single moms best option is to date single dads.

Single guys who date single moms are unwise.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's a complete turn off to most guys (myself included).

Compatibility and personality are the most important thing in a relationship (along with sexual attraction, otherwise its just a friendship), but you aren't going to be mentally compatible with anyone other than single dads pretty much (unless you are a widow), because choosing to have sex before you are certain it's the right person, is a personality thing.

I personally do not want any kids, but even for guys who do want kids, they don't want to raise someone else's kids, and they don't want another guy in the picture.

[MrCommodore]

It can be an issue, usually the biological father's involvement is the main problem for a number of key reasons.

Like it's not that she has a child or needs to prioritise her child. It's difficult to form a normal relationship with the normal flow associated with that with her ex constantly on the scene and the usual friction.

[Jdjfjcjj]

If she gives too much time and energy to another guy, that's time taken away that the kid deserves. If she gives the kid the time and energy they deserve, it doesn't make her an optimal dating candidate.

Unless she widowed, I wouldn't consider and even then, I'd have to ask myself if it's really worth the baggage

[mattclark242]

no It just some guy want a girl with out kids but some guys are ok with one who have kids. I want help a girl that I hook up with who have kids. But I do not want be with a girl who have kids cause I want her kids to be my kids. I be with that one girl but she dose thing that I do not like and she dose not seem to want that are me.

also moms can be hot.

[LiamJHayden]

It depends. A faithful widow with a child is generally acceptable. Never married with multiple children from several baby daddies is a hard no for me. In between depends on the specifics. Your age and one child is closer to the former than the latter.

[Keishio]

It's a turn off. Your dating value might go up again later in life if you look after yourself but right now your the age of guys you'd be looking to date would likely be looking to start a family of their own rather than taking on the responsibility of some other guys family

[Anonymous]

A complete turnoff? No. She's still a woman. But know that a single mom to men is about as attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman. Sure you'll consider her. But that is a considerable strike against her. She's going to have to worker harder than a childless woman to allay his concerns.

[SnowedIn]

For me it is not. If I were dating, it wouldn't matter and, in fact, it might make you more attractive. Personality and compatibility matter a lot.

For a lot of men though it will matter.

[Berethor]

It's a dealbreaker to many guys, why would a young guy will want to raise another guy's child?

[RavVid]

The truth is it is something most guys will avoid. Sorry to say that but there is no good me pretending it doesn't matter.