Am I wrong or am I dodging a bullet?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (29) broke up with me today because I said I wanted to be a bottle girl two nights a week for extra income. Back story: I am a 29-year-old attorney and I’m frustrated with my job. The billable hours requirement is stressful and the pay could be better. Regardless, I am completely self sufficient. I could just do better with budgeting.

This morning we were both speaking about figuring our other sources of income. My (now) ex does apartment maintenance and other handy jobs. One of his ideas is something like an insurance scam. I said nothing about this. I told him I’d consider working at a club 2 nights a week. He said absolutely not and it’s the next best thing to being a stripper. He said if I worked at a club he would break up with me. He then sent me screenshots of a conversation with his friend who also said that he wouldn’t “allow” his girlfriend to be a bottle girl. In reality, I don’t even have the personality to be a bottle girl… I’m shy, reserved, and a LAWYER. I was really just taking but his reaction turned me off. I told him well if that’s all it takes to be done with me then so be it. He ended it and told me he will drop my stuff off when he gets back from his trip. There was nothing else to the conversation. Our relationship is new. We’ve been together two months. He just told me he loves me for the first time last week.

Was I wrong for playing around? I feel like there’s something more to it. Maybe he wants to be single on his trip home. Should I just cut my losses?

[Avicenna]

It sounds like you two aren't compatible, but you need to keep in mind that you also need to keep in mind that some side gigs aren't appropriate for a practicing lawyer.

[VikingWarLord]

Drop his azz.

Now's your chance to double-down and just create an OnlyFans (OF) account.

You'll be the ATTORNEY TURNED NAUUGHTY O. F. SMUT.

You'll get a ton of subscribers for that fantasy alone. I've helped one other chic start an OF, DM if you're down to start one too

[Summeroflove]

I really don’t know. If someone breaks up. It isn’t meant to be. Hopefully you both move on and find someone who makes you happy.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm just going to be real with you... bottle girls give me blow jobs and sometimes fucks me in the back room. He probably knows that kind of shit. And he knows it for a reason. So yeah, you might of dodged a bullet if you're not down with that kind of guy, but you might of dodged a bullet by not getting into that scene and being the girl that sucks my dick.

I'm not joking and I'm not trying to get MHO here because they're already picked. Take my advice and don't get into that work. It will take a LAWYER and turn her into nothing but the next whore. You'll be swept up along with all the other street meat that has not even finished High School... and all just sucking random dicks. Just saying.

[WindAtMyBack]

It sounds like he's the one who dodged a bullet. You were playing games with him and it backfired. It sounds to me like you were giving him a shit test. If you had no intention of doing it, then why say you would? Stop playing games, and stop blaming him when you brought this on yourself. A relationship us about honesty, not making up lies just to see how he'll react.

[Anonymous]

I had to look up what a bottle girl is but essentially this is whoring, the details are irrelevant, the long and the short of it is that you are selling sexuality to other men and its obvious why a man would have a problem with that.

You obviously don't want him making choices for you and thats fine, his attitude is also fine.

[Opinion Owner]

You should have broken up with him the very instant that he started talking about an insurance scam though, YOU ARE A FUCKING LAWYER.

So, yes he is a dick head but its nothing to do with the bottle girl thing.

[Asker]

Whoring? It’s working at a club and bringing bottles to tables.

[Opinion Owner]

No, its having a sexy, flirting girl who isn't wearing a lot bringing bottles to tables.

A person who brings a bottle to a table is called a waitress, totally different job.

[zagor]

You shouldn't play games like that. How would you like it if he said, "you don't mind if I go down on other guys in public restrooms once or twice a month, do you? It's not cheating as I have no attachment to them."

And then it turned out he was just seeing what your reaction would be...

[Anonymous]

No, he didn't want his girlfriend working around a bunch of fuckboys and players in a club. I would break up too if the girl I thought had a head on her shoulders and was an accomplished attorney wanted to work around a bunch of horny douchebags because she's bored.

[spartan55]

What he said had nothing to do with wanting to be single.

[LiamJHayden]

If you are underpaid as an associate, you should look at other law firms. The national average is around $80K.

[Asker]

Yeah I make more than that and I’m pretty okay financially but nothing wrong with wanting more. I’ve been exploring my options but I genuinely like the people at my firm, which is hard to come by.

[LiamJHayden]

That is good. But I get the billable hours pain.

[hammeronfire]

Playing games is wrong period. And a bottle girl is basically the same as stripping because you’re half naked using sex appeal to get guys to buy things. Yeah I’d have a problem with that too.

[AimeeKyle]

Dodged a bullet. He is obviously an insecure, controlling individual. It would likely only get worse once you had a ring on your finger.

[mommymommymommy]

If you didn't think you'd be a good one, why did you recommend it

[Anonymous]

bottle girls get fucked in the backrooms. I wouldn't date a bottle girl either.

[Anonymous]

You did dodge a bullet, by the sounds of it.

[Anonymous]

Loyalty is very important to most guys

[Iron_Man]

What’s a bottle girl?