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Over my life I’ve had to deal with all sorts horrible incidents with women. Being ghosted. Being (unannounced) friendzoned. Being stood up on dates. Being insulted over things I have little or no control over (physical features I was born with).

All of that sucked. However when I find myself in a role reversal situation I usually try to treat others how I wish I was treated.

For example when I broke up with last girlfriend I really didn’t want to see or talk to her. I knew she was going to go berserk and not take it well at all.

However my girlfriend before me completely ghosted me (after dating for 9 months). The girlfriend before that treated me like I was less then human we broke up (despite me maturely accepting her decision) and gave me virtually no closure. Some of the things she said to me back then still haunt me to this day

Anyway I planned to do neither to my last girlfriend. As excruciatingly uncomfortable/painful as it was I broke up with her face to face and the whole ordeal lasted over 2 hours. She screamed, yelled, cried, made a huge scene and culminated with her threatening to commit suicide. It got so bad her grandmother had to call the police to have her placed on psych evaluation. On one end I truly felt bad for her but another end she inadvertently gave me closure and helped me confirm I made the right decision. I look her up on social media form time to time and thankfully I know she’s still alive

So as horrible as that was at least I was able to walk away knowing I did the right thing. I gave her full respect and closure. Let her say everything she wanted to say. She can look back and know she got it all off her chest. I know that will help her move on faster.

However I have never once in my life had a woman give me that kind of respect. But still do people generally treat others worse when they are mistreated in romantic scenarios?

One of my friends/coworkers has a kitten he and his girlfriend are trying to find someone to adopt because they have too many pets of their own. I want to adopt it, but my dad thinks I can’t afford to take care of a pet because I work at a thrift store for $11.50 an hour and I work between 7 and 8 hour shifts. I also live alone. I live nearby an Aldi and Walmart so I could go to those places to get cat/kitten food and litter and stuff. And there’s a pet supply store in the area too. And there’s also amazon I could order stuff on too. I believe I could prove my dad wrong. And my friend said he could help me care for the kitten and said that worse case scenario if I find I can’t afford to care for the kitten after a while, he and his girlfriend would take it back and find it a new home.

Should I accept the kitten? My apartment does allow pets, but they add $25 to the rent which is already $700. My friend thinks I could just take the kitten and not let the apartment know I’d have a pet. I don’t plan on letting it out. It would be an indoor cat. My friend doesn’t think they’ll find out if I don’t tell them. And even if they do find out, he thinks the worst they’ll do is add the $25 to my rent.

Should I accept the kitten?