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I haven’t always been the best person in relationships, but lately I feel like I’ve gotten much better and am ready for a serious one. I had a coworker tell me I’m “hubby material” because of my demeanor, work ethic, appearance, and emotional intelligence, but I’ve never felt that the girls I end up with feel the same. One reason is probably because I move too fast sexually, but I feel like because I’m not the biggest size-wise, if anything goes wrong in a relationship a woman is quicker to move on from me. When I see girls from the past, there are some who still show to be interested if I make the move and jump through a hurdle or two (if they’re not seriously dating). Where as with other guy friends that are more “blessed”, they have girls who will stop talking to them for various reasons but then end up reaching back out themselves within days or weeks for what seems to be just for the sex.

I used to dismiss this idea but have increasingly come to realize its merit, and I now believe it explains a lot of the problems we see today in dating and gender relations, and why so many men no longer want to get married or commit. The changes we see in women today compared to the past, the risks to men of marriage, the fact it offers fewer benefits to men now, and the fact that casual sex is so easily available, all have conspired to create a situation where men are taking their gatekeeper responsibilities much more seriously than women are theirs.

Thoughts?