Women are the gatekeepers to sex and men are the gatekeepers to relationships?

[Anonymous]

I used to dismiss this idea but have increasingly come to realize its merit, and I now believe it explains a lot of the problems we see today in dating and gender relations, and why so many men no longer want to get married or commit. The changes we see in women today compared to the past, the risks to men of marriage, the fact it offers fewer benefits to men now, and the fact that casual sex is so easily available, all have conspired to create a situation where men are taking their gatekeeper responsibilities much more seriously than women are theirs.

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[Anonymous]

I think this is clearly true. Women complain all the time about men only wanting sex but not wanting relationships. The reasons for that should be pretty obvious. Women say they want sex just as much as men do but we all know deep down that's not true. What they want is connection. Intimacy is part of a bigger picture for women, and that bigger picture is a committed relationship. Men want sex more than women and women want relationships more than men. That is why women are gate keepers for sex and men are gate keepers for relationships. That is not working as well for women today as it used to and I think that trend will only continue. The genie is not going back in the bottle. All of this is happening because we are turning our backs on our own human nature and expecting it won't have unintended consequences. Both men and women are to blame, and I think it is a big factor in the impending downfall of western society. It's coming, like the tide

[kinggeorge007]

Women are the gatekeepers to both. And I recently chose to not care about it.

[Anonymous]

Sad but true

[Anonymous]

Another version of this is "women choose who they have sex with, men choose who they marry."

[Opinion Owner]

Both true by the way.

[Asker]

Agreed. It's a matter of relative value, and supply and demand.

There is a lot of rhetoric out there saying men benefit more from marriage than women, but those things must be measured over time, and by necessity any studies that measure the value of marriage must use couples who have been married for many years. Those couples got married decades ago when things were very different.

Today, it is women who benefit more from marriage and that is reflected in the value they themselves place on it. Women obviously want to get married more than men because they benefit more from it today. As a consequence, there are fewer men for them to choose from.

Put yet another way, the supply and demand equation is clearly in favor of women when it comes to sex. It is a seller's market, so to speak, and women are the "sellers".

The same is true with men and marriage; it is a seller's market and women are clearly the "buyers".

[Jaysonava]

I never thought about it that way.

Unfortunately this might be an issue when there is a lack of connection between two people and the relationship is transactional.

[Creampiekarl420]

Yes because guys will wait for sex and a woman will wait for a guy to propose