"If you can't find the right partner, relationship, or person to love you, you only have yourself to blame." True or false?

[MCheetah]

I fully and adamantly believe this is false, by the way. This earlier post I said explains why:

"Considering women are, and ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, the gatekeepers of sex and love, you have no one to blame by yourself if you haven't found the right one yet by your 30s. Women have probably rejected dozens of quality, marriage material men by then, for being too short, not wealthy enough, not good enough in bed, etc.

It's a completely different game than what men have to go through, where we have to show our value to women to even get noticed and aren't seen as desirable merely for existing, like women are. Most men don't get to that "valuable" phase, until their mid to late 30s."

Women have it EASIER, but some (very few, but some) women still have bad luck finding someone. Men have to demonstrate value, in order to be "worthy" of love though, and most men are not guaranteed success, winning the genetic lottery, or being arrogant AF, to be seen as worthy 100% of the time.

True

False

[Fuentes]

to find love it's false. Too many prerequisites that a lot of men these days are suppose to have & that I ain't into playing that game & it's true every woman has men at their fingertips tips in today's society I'm not tryna hear their bullshit of how no man wants them, it's really just translation for "their just not the RIGHT MAN that I want" but don't even realize subconsciously they have rejected over 100 to 1000 men & even more.

It's funny when I hear that. But the only thing I care about and I am in a relationship with is money, and we don't share we ain't doing no three somes, we a couple of 2 only. Hahahhaa!

[RealMarek]

There is a certain strain of thought common in America that likes to dismiss misfortune as the sole responsibility of the unfortunate person. The reality is that life is and never has been fair.

[Avicenna]

That's sometimes true, but usually it isn't. Finding a partner is possible for the vast majority of people, but finding a compatible one is indeed very difficult. I only fault the people who are clearly unrealistic and for that reason are single.

[Stoner710]

It’s my fault I’m a conservative agnostic 99% of conservatives are Christian or some sort of religion like Muslim or Hindu. If I went to church or became a full blown liberal I would find a girl just fine but my political and religious beliefs are a barrier to finding the right girl. Religious folk don’t date those who aren’t religious and liberals don’t date conservatives so I’m screwed until I believe in god or I think men who think there women are truly women and we should trans the kids those are my 2 options in the United States

[MCheetah]

I think if you didn't refer to yourself as "conservative," being a "conservative agnostic" would just be considered level-headed and rational. Labeling is everything with people, nowadays. Reject labels.

[Stoner710]

Yea labels are incredibly important in the west in general you go to Japan no one cares, but the west there is no escape from labels unless your just going to lock yourself in your house and never see the sun. It’s sad but that’s where we are

[JDavid25]

I would say for many men it's either or.. A lot of men are just too simpy sometimes and put women on this pedestal pushes away a lot of women.. For women... Well, a lot are just told that they can have these silly expectations of a guy.. They can have a good guy right there and he does one thing wrong and they are ready to move on.. But it's still either or for them also.

[Chazmatazz269]

False. Relationships are a two-way street. If you have standards, it’s difficult to find someone. If you expect someone with standards, it’s harder yet.

[ChiTown33]

Kind of. I think most people say they want a relationship. But few people want to actually put forth the effort needed to achieve a successful relationship.

[Honest-Matt]

There are billions of people on this world and we have the audacity to think it's not our fault we haven't found love? Get off the computer and go say hi to the next person who stuns you. Ask them out right then and there, be bold, we are responsible for our own destiny.

[MCheetah]

Some guys, like me, are just short, ugly, and "the wrong race" according to many women, if not most of them. No matter what, I will never be considered attractive to actual women out there. I'm not complaining about that; I just accept this is how I was born.

But other guys can be the total opposite of me in looks AND have a winning personality, but just live in a sh*tty dating area (like NYC or LA). If I was just speaking for my short ugly ass, I'd chalk it up to me just being born with unworthy genetics and it being "my fault" (not really, but what else could I blame it on?) But considering I've known so many other good men, who are over six feet tall, had good jobs, and who were total gentlemen, and still couldn't find a good woman, I have to believe it is more than just the fault of the individual why they can't find love, and not just down to pickiness and entitlement.

Cause if that was the case, then incels wouldn't be a thing; they'd date anyone remotely human and female, from convicts, deformed women, really old widows in their 80s and 90s, to really sick and ill women.

[Honest-Matt]

I'm 5'4", fat, with no life direction and not much ambition, I'm crippled emotionally but manage to charm girls from experience. I've dated more girls taller than me than shorter. Call me an optimist but there is so much we take for granted or squander what we are given to work with. I believe you can find love, I know it may not seem that way to you and it may not seem possible in the society you are in. But we can change almost everything in lives to improve it. I understand that this may just come off as ignorant, but sometimes (and I've even been there) we get so wrapped up in the negativity of where we are that we start to believe there is nothing more out there. There is more out there.

[exitseven]

sometimes is all boils down to being in the right place at the right time.

[Avatar74]

I totally agree, you have to be lucky sometimes. The right woman may walk into your life when you least expect it.

[JesseJayNeak]

I’m not the one with high standards. They usually are

[HippieVeganJewslim]

All of us are different, so false. However, many people love everyone.

[boobliker]

only time some don't find love till latter like 50

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Totally