"Don't date anyone until you can love yourself" Do you believe this is true?

[another_curious_girl]

I heard this phrase and similar statements go around a lot. I think the main idea is to learn how to handle your trauma and habits before letting any romantic connections into your life. usually people with low self-esteem, mental health problems and attachment issues are more likely to end up in abusive relationships or even end up being an abuser. The solution to that would be stay single and Ideal work on your internalized issues. I've honestly been thinking about applying this to my own life. In my past situation-ships I often choose pleasure over true love, but now a realize that's disrespectful to myself and the people I've used. I think right now I should stay single until I'm trustworthy enough to actually love someone properly. Until I prove my reliability in my home and work life, how can anyone relay on me in a relationship. I think this is what people miss when they hear "love yourself first" it means to be the person that you would want to date rather than expecting some random person to fix you. I think this is a practice that everyone should consider. Do you argee?

[TheSpaceGnome]

You need to know what you want before dating.

In order to know what you want, you need to know what kind of person you are, and you need to be ok with that, so yes, love yourself first, or you'll just end up pickng the wrong person and not knowing until it's too late.

[fonduegirl]

Of course. If you can't be happy alone, you won't be happy in a relationship either.

[strateguy632]

opposite do not delay. easier to love self when you get loved and see you are lovable

[another_curious_girl]

I disagree, I feel like people are more likely to attach themselves to unloving relationships if they don't understand themselves and their needs first. or they start relying on there partner to validate them, becoming codependent and clingy.