Those of you who are dating: Are you looking for "the one," or just trying to enjoy yourself?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

[Finchie40]

The one , but I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ mainly because of my previous experiences with girls’ it takes time to really get to know someone and to make sure they are on the same exact page as you are , and not just saying things that they think you want to hear. Most people are infatuated with each other when they meet someone new and exciting and attractive to them etc , but we really don’t know who they are , and what their true intentions are, we aren’t mind readers , why it’s best to date and not rush into anything serious until you both really get to know each other and you both really choose each other. Why I prefer FWB’s with a girl that is on the same page as me. That we both agree on a lot of the same things and enjoy each others company before we end up in a serious relationship with each other , it gives us both time to really get to know ons another with only a few strings attached , we both agree to only have sex with each other , but we are both allowed to date others ‘ only if we choose to do so. IWe are both honest with each other we wouldn’t be friends period if we weren’t honest with each other , so her and I will talk about this before we end up in bed t together , if we end up in bed with someone else , we both agree to end the benefits part between us and just remain friends. Most people do not know what they really want when they meet someone new , especially these days, they think they do , but when push comes to shove , they don’t. FWB’s eliminates some of the strings that are attached for a committed relationship , it gives you both time to really get to know each other while slowly getting closer to each other , Sex helps bring us both closer to each other if we are both on the same page with things Most people love sex without strings attached and usually someone will eventually get hurt or their heart broken if the other person isn’t on the same page with them , FWB’s is best because it eliminates that from happening.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm looking for "the one" I'm not sure why nobody else is.

[DishLady]

For those who have dated a few times the concept of "the one" can become a distant fantasy, but if that's what you believe in... try not to lose faith.

By "enjoying yourself" I presume you mean friends with benefits or hooking up, which I personally don't recommend. The more you use sex for reductive pleasure the less likely you are to find a partner to share your life with.

[AmyHew1tt]

I can't decide. I'm pulled in two directions with this

[V_Injector]

Looking for victims. I will rip their tiddies off and feast upon their blood.

You're a f*****

[OlderAndWiser]

When i was dating, my goal was to find The One, but i didn’t approach every first date with the expectation that this would finally be her.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am trying to enjoy myself and if the one comes along, that will be nice.

[Avicenna]

The One. Don't expect to find her, though, LOL...

[sheenagwapa]

i am not dating i just have a crush eho i think is my soulmate because of mystic happenings but he really keep puttinh on my face that he is into with other girls and i am very easy person if yoy don't like me i do not like you too


i will not die, i can move on. i will not lie and kiss your ass so don't scare me with not gettinh inheritance which i don't understand but it is being put into my face


now i'm think if my supposed soulmate is dyinh because you hy would he keep hinting about inheritance on my face ugggghhhh! i am sure i sm not the snake i am just a lizard heaven is hinting me i am just a lizard i am not a snakw


i have been looking at my face in the mirror to check if i look like a snake! not gonna liw there's a certain angle BUT the time when i'm worrying i am a snake i was given a sign my voice made a rumming sound like that of a gecko or (tuko in bisaya) and i saw a lizard on my altar


and i oray for this soulmate. i went to a religious shrine DIVINE MERCY SHRINE and prsy for this person so how come i am the snake. this is also my second miraculous experience

[SotiCoto]

I was always trying to look for the hypothetical "one"... but it never worked out... and eventually I realised that my ways are far too bizarre and detached from those of most humans that the whole thing was a futile, exhausting and painful endeavour.

So I gave up.

It isn't ideal. For sure I'd rather the hypothetical perfect couple scenario than where I am now... but even if it were possible, it is sufficiently improbable that my life is far less uncomfortable simply not trying.

[SallyTho87]

Yes! I'm interested in finding my "one" the partner, companion, friend, who I will keep around in my life for good! Dating, to me, is looking for a partner, for a long term relationship. I'm not personally into hookups / one night stands, or casual dating.

[Raaj4you]

Me too

[b_lova]

Always looking for the one.

That's what I teach my children. Personally I feel like doing otherwise a person is dating for selfish reasons and a waste of time for the other person.

That being said I'm not saying the two "selfish" people can't just meet for dinner then screw each other's brains out if they so choose. I just don't consider that a date. Dating to me requires a giving of intimacy and a desire for intimacy that a dinner "meeting" doesn't.

[HawkPerception]

I have always been looking for "the one" to no avail.

The truth is my standards are probably too high for what I have to offer/bring to the table, but I'd rather keep those high standards than lie to myself and be with someone I just decided to settle with. It would be unfair to that girl too.

[padrepiedra777]

Those who are trying to 'enjoy themselves' are either children who have no concept of the consequences, or people in despair.

I won't expend energy (lifeforce) on a romantic relationship if I don't intend to assess our compatibility to have a family.

[Mr_twoface]

When I was dating, I didn't want to settle until 30 despite if she was the one. So with that mentality I obviously couldn't be completely transparent and ended up more enjoying myself in various of dates.

[DarkLegacy]

There is no such thing as the one, so im just looking for fun. Casual sex with as many women that i can get my hands on and fulfilling my fantasies also.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I see nothing in this "enjoying myself" thingy. Like who wishes to waste their time and energy with someone who's not really worth it?

I want my one and only. Someone who I can count on, trust and feel safe with.

[Elsie_Lachlan12]

I am good hearted lady looking for a good hearted man. I try to treat people the way I would like someone to treat me. I try as much as I can to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, because I believe in being fair. I say what I always try to keep my word, if I say that I am going to do something, I would like to believe that I can follow through on what I say and I expect the same of those I am with. I am a homebody but I do like to go out every so often.

[Justneedtokno]

At this moment in time, I’m learning what I like and what I don’t like and would I would like for my future so the one but mixed in with enjoying myself at the same time I don’t wanna put unnecessary pressure on another person nor myself

[summiter]

I'm happily married now. But before marriage I did a bit of both. At times I was just into a relationship for sex and lots of it, but as I matured I looked for the one and finally I found her!

[Courtneyblabla]

How did you mature during those stages? Like what changed?

[summiter]

@Courtneyblabla well I still enjoyed sex with a lot of wonderful girls I slowly started enjoying longer term relationships and then when I was around 26 I just knew it was time to find the one. It took a while and jerking off kept my sanity but I'm glad that I did wait

[Phoenix98]

I'm just looking for the one I'll end up marrying maybe it'll be this person or that person who knows.

But I never have nor never will date for fun, that's completely pointless and a waste of time.

[ZackBan]

For years my answer was "no" but my track record is not exactly filled with successful relationships. So maybe I should be looking for "the one" for the first time I'm having doubts

[supercutebutt]

I've been doing a lot of hiking in the woods lately. So let's just say I've been enjoying quite a few bears these past few days.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I knew it! I knew that's why so many women love hiking!

[mstbooblover]

Sure I'm trying to enjoy myself, but my pleasure depends still on my partners pleasure, and thus basically, I'm actually looking for "the one".