Those of you who are dating: Are you looking for "the one," or just trying to enjoy yourself?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

The one , but I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ mainly because of my previous experiences with girls’ it takes time to really get to know someone and to make sure they are on the same exact page as you are , and not just saying things that they think you want to hear. Most people are infatuated with each other when they meet someone new and exciting and attractive to them etc , but we really don’t know who they are , and what their true intentions are, we aren’t mind readers , why it’s best to date and not rush into anything serious until you both really get to know each other and you both really choose each other. Why I prefer FWB’s with a girl that is on the same page as me. That we both agree on a lot of the same things and enjoy each others company before we end up in a serious relationship with each other , it gives us both time to really get to know ons another with only a few strings attached , we both agree to only have sex with each other , but we are both allowed to date others ‘ only if we choose to do so. IWe are both honest with each other we wouldn’t be friends period if we weren’t honest with each other , so her and I will talk about this before we end up in bed t together , if we end up in bed with someone else , we both agree to end the benefits part between us and just remain friends. Most people do not know what they really want when they meet someone new , especially these days, they think they do , but when push comes to shove , they don’t. FWB’s eliminates some of the strings that are attached for a committed relationship , it gives you both time to really get to know each other while slowly getting closer to each other , Sex helps bring us both closer to each other if we are both on the same page with things Most people love sex without strings attached and usually someone will eventually get hurt or their heart broken if the other person isn’t on the same page with them , FWB’s is best because it eliminates that from happening.

Awesomesauce2005 · Accepted Answer

I'm looking for "the one" I'm not sure why nobody else is.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

For those who have dated a few times the concept of "the one" can become a distant fantasy, but if that's what you believe in... try not to lose faith.

By "enjoying yourself" I presume you mean friends with benefits or hooking up, which I personally don't recommend. The more you use sex for reductive pleasure the less likely you are to find a partner to share your life with.

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

I can't decide. I'm pulled in two directions with this

V_Injector · Answer

Looking for victims. I will rip their tiddies off and feast upon their blood.  You're a f*****

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When i was dating, my goal was to find The One, but i didn’t approach every first date with the expectation that this would finally be her.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I am trying to enjoy myself and if the one comes along, that will be nice.

Avicenna · Answer

The One. Don't expect to find her, though, LOL...

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am not dating i just have a crush eho i think is my soulmate because of mystic happenings but he really keep puttinh on my face that he is into with other girls and i am very easy person if yoy don't like me i do not like you too

i will not die, i can move on. i will not lie and kiss your ass so don't scare me with not gettinh inheritance which i don't understand but it is being put into my face

now i'm think if my supposed soulmate is dyinh because you hy would he keep hinting about inheritance on my face ugggghhhh! i am sure i sm not the snake i am just a lizard heaven is hinting me i am just a lizard i am not a snakw

i have been looking at my face in the mirror to check if i look like a snake! not gonna liw there's a certain angle BUT the time when i'm worrying i am a snake i was given a sign my voice made a rumming sound like that of a gecko or (tuko in bisaya) and i saw a lizard on my altar

and i oray for this soulmate. i went to a religious shrine DIVINE MERCY SHRINE and prsy for this person so how come i am the snake. this is also my second miraculous experience

SallyTho87 · Answer

Yes! I'm interested in finding my "one" the partner, companion, friend, who I will keep around in my life for good! Dating, to me, is looking for a partner, for a long term relationship. I'm not personally into hookups / one night stands, or casual dating.

SotiCoto · Answer

I was always trying to look for the hypothetical "one"... but it never worked out... and eventually I realised that my ways are far too bizarre and detached from those of most humans that the whole thing was a futile, exhausting and painful endeavour.

So I gave up.

It isn't ideal. For sure I'd rather the hypothetical perfect couple scenario than where I am now... but even if it were possible, it is sufficiently improbable that my life is far less uncomfortable simply not trying.

b_lova · Answer

Always looking for the one.

That's what I teach my children. Personally I feel like doing otherwise a person is dating for selfish reasons and a waste of time for the other person.

That being said I'm not saying the two "selfish" people can't just meet for dinner then screw each other's brains out if they so choose. I just don't consider that a date. Dating to me requires a giving of intimacy and a desire for intimacy that a dinner "meeting" doesn't.

HawkPerception · Answer

I have always been looking for "the one" to no avail.

The truth is my standards are probably too high for what I have to offer/bring to the table, but I'd rather keep those high standards than lie to myself and be with someone I just decided to settle with. It would be unfair to that girl too.

padrepiedra777 · Answer

Those who are trying to 'enjoy themselves' are either children who have no concept of the consequences, or people in despair.

I won't expend energy (lifeforce) on a romantic relationship if I don't intend to assess our compatibility to have a family.

Mr_twoface · Answer

When I was dating, I didn't want to settle until 30 despite if she was the one. So with that mentality I obviously couldn't be completely transparent and ended up more enjoying myself in various of dates.

DarkLegacy · Answer

There is no such thing as the one, so im just looking for fun. Casual sex with as many women that i can get my hands on and fulfilling my fantasies also.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I see nothing in this "enjoying myself" thingy. Like who wishes to waste their time and energy with someone who's not really worth it?

I want my one and only. Someone who I can count on, trust and feel safe with.

Elsie_Lachlan12 · Answer

I am good hearted lady looking for a good hearted man. I try to treat people the way I would like someone to treat me. I try as much as I can to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, because I believe in being fair. I say what I always try to keep my word, if I say that I am going to do something, I would like to believe that I can follow through on what I say and I expect the same of those I am with. I am a homebody but I do like to go out every so often.

supercutebutt · Answer

I've been doing a lot of hiking in the woods lately. So let's just say I've been enjoying quite a few bears these past few days.

Justneedtokno · Answer

At this moment in time, I’m learning what I like and what I don’t like and would I would like for my future so the one but mixed in with enjoying myself at the same time I don’t wanna put unnecessary pressure on another person nor myself

summiter · Answer

I'm happily married now. But before marriage I did a bit of both. At times I was just into a relationship for sex and lots of it, but as I matured I looked for the one and finally I found her!

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'm just looking for the one I'll end up marrying maybe it'll be this person or that person who knows. But I never have nor never will date for fun, that's completely pointless and a waste of time.

ZackBan · Answer

For years my answer was "no" but my track record is not exactly filled with successful relationships. So maybe I should be looking for "the one" for the first time I'm having doubts

mstbooblover · Answer

Sure I'm trying to enjoy myself, but my pleasure depends still on my partners pleasure, and thus basically, I'm actually looking for "the one".

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I am married … when I was in the dating pool…I look for the one at the same time enjoying myself.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I love the picture! But my answer would probably be the one. I don't know who else I'd be looking for.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Finding "the one" must be really nice. But then, I don't wanna rush. Maybe enjoy the moments, for now. 💞

Sugar100 · Answer

I’m looking for a boyfriend that meets family short term , but it neevr came true. So I guess the one guy that will be my first ever boyfriend will be the one

CrabCakes11 · Answer

When I am actively dating, I am looking for someone I’ll be compatible with long term. The “one” doesn’t exist

Princesspd · Answer

There is no such thing as the one. A younger and better looking one will come along and make your heart flutter. Just trying to enjoy sex.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It was always both. Dating is supposed to be fun.

strateguy632 · Answer

both, mainly for a good match but on the way meet people n have fun.

RebelinSteel · Answer

I tend to do a fair bit of dating and relationships, it’s mainly fun.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I’m not looking go hook up with anyone i am looking for the one

saroj786 · Answer

Enjoying that's it. Never felt a pulse with any girl, just some sexual needs that's it. So doing as my body asks

dragoblack · Answer

Trying to find someone who i vibe with and can push pased the awkward moments. Too many ghost at the slightest inconvenience Or don't make an effort to get to know me

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

When I was still dating I was looking for the one. Date to never have to date again.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I stopped believing in fairy tales a long time ago, just enjoying myself.

hellothere90 · Answer

I only date to marry. I'm not here to waste my time.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I was looking for the one but realized this gen is a lost cause so need to bother with men.

Likes2drive · Answer

I’m dating because I want to find the one, I’m in in it for the long haul and if I find the right one I might consider marriage again

handsomelad70 · Answer

I'd be looking to enjoy myself in bed with the girl. (I'm 70; it'd be difficult, though not impossible to find "the one" at my age.)

Dongie · Answer

Oooh... how do you do that. Unless you have like at least 2 preferably 3 other ones you're seeing... fully.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm just rtying to have fun and chill. Of course if sex is involved... all the better

shortster · Answer

Right now I am just looking for someone to spend time with and come what may. If it is just for fun, okay; if it turns into a marriage, great.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not looking for the one, I'm looking for the ones. Many are better than one.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

There is no enjoyment in dating in my opinion. I've only dated to find the one.

iwannaknowrn · Answer

I’ve been looking for the one since i was 16. Still haven’t met him… i think

boobliker · Answer

no just looking the one will pop up at any time

Jamie05rhs · Answer

People who are looking for The One usually are NOT dating. Because they're holding out for The One.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I always intend to enjoy and if more comes of it, great.

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Just wanted to give you a amazing f--k then you can use the truth that you are looking very much like you are a good idea

Alessandra111295 · Answer

I looked for companionship someone I can be silly with make each other laugh.

EndlessVoid20 · Answer

Just enjoying myself, but the one your enjoying yourself could BE the one... you never know (=

Twalli · Answer

Not really looking for her anymore. I think I found her, so no need to look.

OddBeMe · Answer

Looking for Miss Right Now. Dont tell my Miss Wife Now.

krin_m · Answer

I'm currently in relationship so not dating.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Always looking for the one if I am dating.

elizamichale1 · Answer

To enjoy n hav fun

EmpressAJ · Answer

Hmm I can enjoy myself until my soul mate finds me

BlueJeanGirl04 · Answer

I say both just roll with it.

Pennywise_6 · Answer

Just enjoying life and passing the time

Iron_Man · Answer

I have one LDR

scott04sa22 · Answer

I'm enjoying myself. I don't need relationships

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