Are you actively or passively looking for a relationship/ Dating?

[Justneedtokno]

Actively: you’re putting yourself out there on online dating or just talking to people and pursuing a relationship

Passively: you are looking but not really looking. If someone comes along you don’t turn them down. You test the waters. Not on online dating sites not doing a lot. Really just having a good time and living life by yourself until that person comes along.

Loving me: Then there’s those self lovers and the learning to be OK in your own company. What screwed over but not closing the door on love. Sometimes the pessimistic
hopeless romantics

Nope: I don’t want to be in a relationship ever I never will be

Actively

Passively

One day but not today

Never before never will

Other, explain please

[Michael49]

Passively for sure. Started dating my ex wife when i was 14, married at 22, divorced at 46. Took awhile to even consider dating again then when i felt like it was time, covid hit which tbh was probably a good thing cuz i have kinda enjoyed the last 2 years of being alone. But if a lady comes along that piques my interest i would certainly seize the opportunity.

[Justneedtokno]

Well Never been in your shoes but I do understand

[Michael49]

Thanks hun.

Tbh i wouldn’t change a thing. Ex and I still get a long great and have 2 great kids so life is good.

[Justneedtokno]

So I’m a little bit of a hopeless romantic do you ever think that y’all get back together

[Michael49]

I never say never but i seriously doubt it. We just got to a point in our lives where we wanted different things. By the time our kids our kids left for college it felt like i was living with a buddy.

[Michael49]

She was a good wife and is an unbelievable mother, because of that i will always love her, just not IN love with her. And pretty sure the feelings are mutual

[Michael49]

Thanks for the MHO hun i appreciate it

[ArrowheadSW]

I am a mix of "passively" and "one day but not today". I have been hanging out with a particular lady, who I met just by being out and about in my normal life without "looking". It really isn't "official" yet and I'm not sure that I am in the life position right now to be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I was passively looking for most of my life, until the last one I dated 3 years ago.. seeing my friends and family members just falling in and out of love with people around them.. thinking it would also happen to me someday. But for the ones I dated it was tough from almost the start, and nothing that would ever turn into a relationship when I looked at it from a distance.
I think I actively have to look to find anyone since it does not naturally happen to me, and I am not ready to put myself out there like that. But someday I will, need to try it out for real in my lifetime xD, until then I am the pessimistic hopeless romantic as you put it ;)

[TwinkleLily5]

Every time I start dating it just gets Annoying to some degree, I’m set in my ways and others get on my nerves fairly quickly lol. But Im open sometimes to dating-passively.

[Justneedtokno]

I completely understand

[Ninaface]

I had a relationship, and I gave him all the love I had to give. I poured and poured into his bottomless cup until I was empty.
I used to want to find someone to love. But now even while I sometimes may get a crush on a person, it seems impossible to ever love one. I am not looking, because I'd be fine to die alone. But who knows.

[ohshee]

I think I'm ready and I think I should start putting myself out there and I could use the tell within the first two to three minutes whether I would date the person or not and it's the same time I would tell then the reasons why but then I would say if you want to go hang out and do something we can do that

[HighValue]

If someone likes me we could talk and get to know each other, but I currently don't have the time available to spend time with someone for a relationship until June of next year. So getting to know them by occasionally talking is the best i could do right now.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I am married so I am not searching for it in any way.
Before whoever I was looking passively.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes I forgot to add the marriage button

[St37xy11]

It's on my mind but it's not my main priority. I would like to get marriage in the future though.

[St37xy11]

Married*

[SunnySensei]

I don't like going on dating sites Miss, and I am not feeling that I am missing something by not being in a relationship, but if I met someone or talked to someone and I feel a connection and she does too then we can move forward to a relationship.

[Lionman95]

I´m at best passively looking for a relationship. There are many reasons I´m not actively looking for one. One of them is that I neither have the time nor the ability for dating.

[Alyssa11]

Passively. I really do want to be in a relationship but I just can’t seem to do it actively lol.

[IAMNathanael]

One day but not today. Not next month, probably not next year... I don't know when.

[DarkWinterNights]

Mid-way between Passive and Self-Love. I’d like something someday, but I don’t like the options available and I don’t want to sacrifice my free-time and money exerting effort in today’s dating market,

[TheBootyChest]

I am passively looking. It's too much of a distraction to look at every woman around me and consider if we would be could together.

[Relux47]

I don’t care about looking for a relationship or dating which I’ve never done before. Just me, myself and I 🤷‍♂️

[Jamie05rhs]

This is a great question!! I think I'm doing it passively for the most part. But actively a little, I guess.

[Recurrence]

I still need to work on myself before I try to be with anyone

[KatherineJ]

I’m very happily married.

[Justneedtokno]

I forgot to add that bubble

[KatherineJ]

@Justneedtokno it happens

[clampfan101]

It at least feels like I’m looking actively. Still no luck in the slightest though.

[ChiPaPa]

I'm open to the idea but don't think it'll ever be.

[krin_m]

I already have two girlfriends so already am in it.

[Justneedtokno]

Good for you

[krin_m]

Thanks! I'm happy!

[Justneedtokno]

I guess the real question is how do you get the girls to agree to do this. I’m way too jealous to share

[krin_m]

We are in dedicated poly relationships. It is a bit complicated but we worked it out.