Is these examples of how the gatekeeper's rights was taken away?

[Anonymous]

Ok so we're the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Would these two cases be examples of when the gatekeeper never had a choice and the decision was made for them:

- A woman backs out when they're about to have sex, changes her mind and says no. The man got hard by then, is upset she made him pay for the whole trip, the romance, the date, etc and doesn't take no for an answer and forces it anyways; forever traumatizing her. Her gate got broken by force.

- A man has been together for 6 years with his live-in girlfriend. The woman carefully tampers with whatever protection they have. Luckily for her it was a kind fellow that doesn't believe in abortion, trusts her that it was an accident and is a believer that children deserved to be raised in a marriage. She got away with it. He never had a choice (when she have kids) there.

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10 mo

Forcing sex on a woman when she doesn't want it... he broke the gate right there. Baby-trapping a kind man and making him speed up the commitment process and marry her, she broke the gate there too.

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10 mo

Sadly these two examples have happened, happen and will continue happening in real life.

[kylee2437]

So for your first example, if a man has to do all of that and more to get a woman to have she’s with him - the woman was probably never interested in sex with him and was most likely only interested in having sex with him now because of what he offered at the very moment of the moment.


The second example is pretty easy. If you don’t want the risk of having a kid, you do not have sex. Yes the woman is wrong in the situation, but ultimately the guy in the situation was taking a risk by sleeping with her in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Gatekeeping is when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have or rights to a community or identity. Like gatekeeping a hole in the wall restaurant, exclusive location, hidden tips and tricks, things like that. So while I get the gist of what you’re trying to say, this isn’t the word you’re looking for.

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