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I have an Anxious Preocuppied Attachment style and he is a fearful avoidant, both 28. We had been together for 3 years before he broke up with me almost a month ago while celebrating our anniversary / my birthday. The month prior, he had moved to a new city due to being transferred at his job, so new workplace as well. His company gave him 2 weeks to move his whole life over there and he had to do the move while still going to work so he was highly stressed. The city is about 1.5hrs away by train from where I am (and he also was) and I have plans to go there next year for work, so we were thinking of going there together. So a long distance relationship would have been temporary and we would have seen each other once a month in person. He reassured me that everything would be okay and that we would absolutely make it work.

When he came back to our city a week after moving/starting his new job (for the celebration), he looked very stressed. His work week was hectic and he’d get home at around 9pm every day and go straight to sleep (about one message a day). At the hotel, where we were celebrated, he seemed to be in a terrible mood so I asked him what was wrong a bunch of times and also mentioned our future (moving in together eventually, which we’ve talked about before) and he said he didn’t know and couldn’t give me the answer that I wanted. He then came up with a bunch of excuses about needing to focus on himself and his career and not having the bandwidth to be in a relationship anymore. That he couldn’t cherish me. There was no changing his mind. I left the hotel and went back home.

The next day I called to make up and talk again but he was firm in his decision so we each apologized and thanked each other and that was it. He deleted me from IG and hasn’t reached out since. I have been in NC. I’m extremely hurt and am wondering if this is temporary or permanent? He broke up with me once before but came back after 20 mins apologizing. What should I do?

I like a guy at work, coincidentally he worked in front of me for 3-4 days a month and half ago. I didn’t like him during that time but once I began like him, I found out he works in other separate area not where I work at.

so my plan to make him my friend working together failed.

we don’t cross paths so it’s difficult try talk to him. He seems shy , walking alone no friends reserved.

the last time he worked near me I felt him look at me and when I turned to look at him he quickly looked down at the floor. So our eyes didn’t meet.

I also don’t see girls walking with him or approaching him. I’m shy myself so I’m also not walking with a guy or anything.

it’s been a while since I’ve seen him and I can’t be around him so he notice me more and look at each other. Only way this can happen is if I talk to him myself.
or shud I not talk to him never and stay single and sad& continuework and day dream of this guy I like a lot in my head?

there’s many men daily at job like 100 but I only like him. Or is it true only men need make first move or else they don’t like you enough?