I’ve dealt with a lot of family related issues my whole life. My mom and dad are divorced and their conflict are getting me and my brother involved. My whole life I’ve been forced to pick between my mom and dad and I have a very unstable home situation because every since CPS was involved my brother and I have been moved around. I’ve never been open to any friends about this because I hate to appear “not normal”. I was left responsible with all the adult conflict which both me and my brother should’ve been protected from and it has messed me up in a lot of ways. The times I’d feel better and just forget about how messed up my life is when I was social with friends, it made me distracted from what’s happening in my life. A lot of people think that because I’m dealing with a few things that’d automatically make me appear sad at school or any other social event. Is it normal to cope like this?
Is it normal to cope like this?
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Very normal.
I'm sorry about your situation. That sucks. I can understand to a point. My parents got divorced and used me as a pawn in their arguments. Which were more like WW1 trench warfare but I digress.
Here's the thing: whatever you do to cope (as long as it's legal and not addictive) is okay and normal. That's the very point of coping.
You're good.
i'm in my early 30's and am still feeling the effects of divorce from my childhood. i'm just not over it. and i never will be. you got a long road ahead of you. cope in any way that you feel is healthy or improves your mood.
I'm really sorry you're having to go through all that. The strong people learn to cope with it. The weak ones climb under a rock and shy away from a social life. You're perfectly normal for coping with it the way you are.