My wife is taller me with heels, my sister is taller than me without heels. Is it normal that I have a great complex?

[elmariachi05]

At childhood, I was lucky for growth. I was 1.74 at the age 14, tall for that age. I was 8-10 cm taller than my one year older sister. Somehow, things went bad. My growth stopped at that age, but my sister continued to grow taller after that. She became 1.77, so 3 cm taller than me. Sometimes I am ashamed of this situation. After the age 30, I also began to shrink 4cm due to posture disorder. Now I am 1.70. When I get together with my sister, she becomes way taller than me with high-heels. I have a great complex with her. Also my wife is 1.67. How can I cope with? When she wears high-heel (12 cm) shoes she becomes taller than me (7-8 cm). Everybody looks us strangely. This bothers me a lot. What should I do? How can I cope with it?

[heelieswithfeelies]

I get why you're uncomfortable. It's a weird and somewhat degrading-seeming situation to be in. Unfortunately, society will try to make you feel bad - stigma is a bitch. I suggest that you try not to worry about it too much. Your wife isn't going to leave you if you're shorter than her. People will look at you strangely, but fuck them. Height doesn't define who you are. It's just a physical setback. People will be dicks, but I think if you build up your self-esteem, you can work through it.

[elmariachi05]

My wife loves me so much. I love her, too. I am shorter than my puberty height. The height diffrence between my sister and me has got more opened. I am too short near her. I was taller than her at the age of 14.

[heelieswithfeelies]

Overtime, you'll probably get used to the social stigma, as long as you're surrounded by love. As of now, it's just a problem of self-esteem.

[elmariachi05]

You're right. How can I get my self-esteem?

[heelieswithfeelies]

I'm not sure, since I don't know what your personality is. I think you just need to realize that height doesn't matter as long as you have people's love. If someone judges you because you're shorter than you're wife, they're a shallow jerk. That's just a fact. There's so much more to you that how tall you are.

[elmariachi05]

My sister has got a model-like appearance. My wife is also like a model with heels. This point of view, I am lucky to have such a sister and a wife.

[heelieswithfeelies]

Exactly! And they're luck to have you - this goes both ways. From what I get, you're a good person just trying to keep their head above the water. Own it!

[elmariachi05]

I'll try to enjoy my and their heights. I won't mind what others say even if my wife gets taller than me bare foot as a result of my shrinking. I'll try to be happy for being model-like wife's ''little'' husband and my model-like sister's ''little'' brother.

[heelieswithfeelies]

There's that positive attitude! I hope my replies have helped, even if it's just a little bit.

[elmariachi05]

Thank a lot. What do think of my sister's and wife's height? Are they tall for a woman? Also me?

[heelieswithfeelies]

They're not super tall for women. As for you, you're also pretty average. They just happen to be taller than you.

[elmariachi05]

My sister was shorter than me altough she is one year older than me. But she continued to grow after my growth stopped. But she is so attractive and beautiful that her height suits her. Also my wife is attractive and beautifu, too. I love them very much.

[elmariachi05]

What is your height?

[heelieswithfeelies]

I'm 5ft 7

[elmariachi05]

We are at the same height. You are over the average for a woman.

[Redemerald]

It's not degrading or weird LoL so calm the heck down. It actually looks nice with some people , as long as you guys like each other nobody else's damn opinion matters! I usually like guys taller then me or the same height as me but if he's attractive as hell I don't mind if he's a little shorter. So if I don't care then no one else's opinion matters! You're good, stop obsessing over it. It doesn't matter. Society can't make you feel shit unless you let it. Period, end of story.

[elmariachi05]

Is it ordinary that my sister is taller than me?

[Redemerald]

Hell yeah dude! I have 2 brothers my younger brother is 5ft 10 and he's taller than me. I'm 5 ft 8 but my older brother is 5ft 7 so I'm like an inch taller than him. It doesn't matter at all. Ever. His wife is 5ft 6 inches, only a one inch difference. It does not matter. Just be confident about it!

[elmariachi05]

I am happy to know this. Does your brother have a height complex.

[elmariachi05]

Do you wear high-heels?

[Redemerald]

What's a hieght complex? If you're asking me does he care that he's 5 ft 7 ... then the answer is no. He doesn't care at all. Never talked about it, Lol. He's happy with his height and everything. :)

[Redemerald]

Also why does it matter if I wear heels? This is about you getting over your height because it's literally not even a problem. Sorry I'm not trying to be rude. I have a lot of heels but I like wearing flatter shows , sandals, flip flops because they look really cute with me. But if I was going to an event like a wedding and I wanted to wear heels then I would... who cares

[elmariachi05]

So, I should accept I have got a modal-like sister. This point of view, I should be proud of her. I should ignore what others say. Also, my wife is like modal. I am happy for being between two modals.

[undertodecover]

This is fairly odd... you said you passed your sister in height by 8cm at one point, but now she is 7 cm taller than you and she's a year older than you? If that is true, it is definitely strange... but I wouldn't worry about it because tall women are sexy and should be empowered to the maximum. Your wife and your sister being taller around you is amazing for them and it makes you a very fortunate guy.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to not wear heels.

[elmariachi05]

she is so enthusiastic to wear that I don't want to worry her.

[elmariachi05]

What do you think of my sister's height (1.77 mt)? Is she tall for a woman?

[Opinion Owner]

I think so. Taller than me

[elmariachi05]

What is your height?

[Opinion Owner]

same as you

[elmariachi05]

Do you wear high-heels?

[Opinion Owner]

No I don't have a complex

[elmariachi05]

How can I get over this complex?

[Opinion Owner]

Be very specific why your height is a problem and why it matters that your sister is taller and your wife when she wears heels. Is it the fact that people watch you weirdly? Well why does someone else's weird look bother you? They will just have a funny looking face.

[elmariachi05]

I was taller than my sister when I was at secondary school. But she outgrew me in later years. This goes to my nerves. When we married, the difference between me and wife is quite reasonable. I was taller than me even if she wore heels. Since I began to shrink, she hat got taller than me with heels. I am bothered of that.

[Opinion Owner]

You said you have some posture disorder. Have you seen a doctor or chiropractic for this? I'd guess that can be cured somehow. But your sister is just tall for a woman anyway. Let her be a tall woman, doesn't make you any inferior to her, unless you feel being taller makes you superior to someone. And maybe that's what's happening. You enjoyed being taller than other's but then you lost that position and you felt like you lost something even though you being taller didn't make you any better in the first place.

[elmariachi05]

You 're right. You analysed my situation correctly. I'll try to enjoy their heights.

[elmariachi05]

I should be proud of having modal-like sister and wife. I love them very much. I have no right to interrupt others' bodies. I must mind only my health problem.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. And you don't even have to become happy or proud, it just doesn't matter either way. The whole issue is an illusion itself. Illusion that being taller makes you better and shorter makes you worse, both has their benefits. Imagine if everyone would be exactly the same height. That would look weird and creepy in my opinion. So of course someone needs to be taller or shorter.

[elmariachi05]

Are you a phsycology or philosophy expert?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know. Never went to school for it or read any books of those topics but I just like to think these things and help if I can.

[elmariachi05]

Thanks a lot for your interest.

[Cookie8888]

Get high heels

[elmariachi05]

Shall I get skirt and tights?

[Cookie8888]

That would be fabulous.