My twin sister is 4 inches taller than me?

[Willow4]

Hi everyone! :)

This is a silly question really but, as I've been training as a gymnast since I was very tiny my stunted growth has meant my height has never exceeded a certain amount and while I've stayed at 5'0, my twin sister is 4 inches taller than me at 5'4.

My body is a lot different to hers, she's very slim and slender whereas I have muscly legs and I'm very trim. People often will laugh when I tell people she's my twin and people have made comments which have been hurtful like 'so you're the dwarf twin?' or 'you look like a little duck next to your sister'.

Is there any way I can feel better about this? I spend so much time with my sister and I need to be able to deal with these comments better :)

[croxy]

You're her twin sister, you're slightly shorter then her, but you're also not just her sister, you're an individual girl, you're beautiful exactly like your sister (probably), you're a really good gymnast and figure skater, you're one of the most caring persons I've ever met, you're funny, you're an awesome friend to have, and the list goes on. YOU are YOU and not your sister.

Remember for every person that say something hurtful, there's way more people who would say something nice, they are just harder to notice, and often it's those people that say nothing :)

Isn't your sister reacting to those comments? I don't think any of you should ignore it when people say things like that even if it's just as a joke. It only make them feel okay making comments like that, and in the end, they will think their twisted humor is funny. If it's ment to hurt you, you basicly have to filter it out and remember the positive things people tell you :)

at least you have a sister that you're close too, and that by itself is a good thing, and should easily outweight the mean comments people say!

[Willow4]

Thank you so much Thor :) You're a great great friend and one of the best things about being here for me. I love you! :) My sister will often just not say anything, both of us are pretty polite and just either laugh it off or change the subject but she knows it upsets me, afterwards she usually gives me a hug or something and tells me not to listen and that they're just ignorant.

You're right... you're always right! lol :)

[croxy]

at least it's a good thing she comforts you, and she seem like a very understanding girl aswell! However I do feel like one of you should step up, just to show them that it actually isn't something either of you find funny, if that's why they say that shit. I know both of you are polite but I just feel like it could also make you feel better there and then when they kinda know their place :) I'm always happy to help, and you know it.

[croxy]

Thanks for MH! :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

the question title is so cute^-^ just dont care what people say because you're amazing. you already know that and i already know that and many other people already know that. haters are gonna hate and if they're hating on your then you're doing something right. keep at it and just keep being yourself because i love you that way:)

[Willow4]

Aww thank you! I think the title looks kind of ridiculous myself :P it's so awkward explaining that we're identical lol. You're lovely and I only wish I knew you in real life :) Thank you so much for making me smile :) I just wish people would be more tactful O. o

[BertMacklinFBI]

okay just say the word and ill beat those "mates" up :D then *carries you off into sunset*

[Willow4]

*gives them the finger while you carry me off* :D lol you're so sweet <3

[SandPlanet]

What you need to do first and foremost, is to avoid being confronted with people who make such comments, as far as it is practically possible for you. Those people are toxic and not worth your time and attention.

Other than that, it's obviously an issue of lacking confidence. I know you quite a bit now and I KNOW that you have ridiculously many BIG reasons to be not only incredibly proud of yourself (personality- and body-wise) but also realize what a stunningly beautiful AND sexy woman your are, just the way you are now.

And once you realize that this is how you should feel about yourself and your body, because you have every reason to, you will soon find out how insignificant those immature people's comments will be to you.

[Willow4]

Thank you so much SP! :) The problem is it's usually strangers that we (for some reason) end up talking to and when people find out we're twins it's usually one big joke which I'm used to by now, but it's still no less tiresome and hurtful.

You're very right! It's my own insecurities being brought to the fore because someone is highlighting something about the way I look :) It might take longer than I thought to sort that one out lol. Thank you for always helping to boost my confidence, I love you!

[SandPlanet]

We will always be regularly confronted with new people that sooner or later (hopefully sooner) turn out to be idiots. That's something that we can't avoid if we want to be social beings.

But, consider it as a social filtering process - the people you meet who make such comments are the people you can shelve under "People that I don't need in my life".

It's a shame your confidence even needs any additonal boost. It should already be boosted like a sexy rocket by itself.

[musicbrain5]

I think many people tend to think twins look the same, when in fact there are always minor differences even among identical twins). The people making those comments towards you are just assholes who you should try and avoid. I don't like to hear about anyone insulting other people, especially over things that can't be controlled, like height for example.

At least you don't get comments like "Oh wow, I didn't know that a guy and girl could be twins!" My brother and I get that quite often.

[justbeinghonest]

Dude you're an athlete that's the difference. Whenever someone comes up with a comment like that just respond "you should see what I can do" and invite them to your competitions.

[Willow4]

I take your point :) but to other people, they just see the massive difference in height and body shape and it does become tiresome constantly having to explain. Though I don't think I'm going to grow anymore, so I do need to just let it go over my head lol :)

[justbeinghonest]

I know what you feel though. My sisters have different bodies than me.

[Hans222]

Are you identical twins? I guess I know the answer, I've seen the pic of you and you sis when you were young and both of you looked identical there :-)
It's remarkable actually... could gym cause some compression stresses on you spine preventing you from growing? Or could it just be the effort of doing professional sports?
Anyway, look in the mirror Amy: if they want to call you a little duck than they should learn to love that little duck for who she is!
Let them try to train as hard as you do, and to make a summersault off the beam.
Don't know if your sis likes some humour. Perhaps ask her if next time someone hurts you mentioning your size you can make the joke "don't know darling - ask my giant sis which brand of bacon she used to eat".
Of course, don't do that if it would hurt her - better to ask first!

[Willow4]

Yes we're identical lol and we did look quite alike in that picture didn't we ;) Probably helped we were in the same dresses!
I don't think anyone's really sure why gymnasts can remain so small, I think it possible has to do with the continual stretching. I myself was intensely stretched as a child, it's not really advisable to do it now as stretched a child (especially their spine) can cause developmental issues. I just stopped growing after a certain point, my feet, hands, frame, height.. I'm much smaller than my sister is, which is very strange, as you said, being that we're identical!
It made me laugh reading the last part... I'm just going to say that whether my sister likes it or not :P though I'll swap 'bacon' for 'cheese' as she's a vegetarian lol ;)
Thank you, as always, for making me feel better Hans :)

[Hans222]

Haha, you're most welcome Amy! Oh and I knew that you liked cheese... Long ago we've answered the "what will you buy in the grocery" question. I remembered about eating cheese. Oh and I've also read many times that you like tea :-)
I'm more a coffee drinker (in the morning) and since years I drink about 3 liters of water a day.

[joe_soapus]

Surely this is the best of both worlds. You have a twin sister to be really close to and you are very individual. Unfortunately there's no way to stop people saying dumb an hurtful things. But as you get older you'll find it easier to filter out all the noise. Take joy from being a twin; celebrate your individuality; ignore the idiots

[Willow4]

I guess, I never thought about it that way :) Being a twin, you feel special to look like somebody else and it's sometimes kind of upsetting when you look so different. Thank you for helping me see it from a more positive angle! :)

[Latina87]

I think another example are the Olsen twins. I read one of them is 1 or 2 inches taller than the other.

[Willow4]

I didn't know that! :) They always look so very alike I suppose you wouldn't notice. It doesn't help that my sister and I have very different styles mixed with very different bodies I don't think :/

[politicallywrong]

Well if you're a badass acrobat and your sister is a frail girly girl, all you have to do is beat her up til she's uglier than you. Problem solved.

[Willow4]

She's much nicer looking I assure you! lol hence why I'm dubbed the dumpy duckling lol it's always the case with twins, too many comparisons :)

[politicallywrong]

I'm sure your backflips are much more impressive than hers though.

[Willow4]

My poor sister can't even manage a forward roll lol so I'm better at one thing at least! ;)

[COCOCHANEL]

i would try to find good things about your height and try to take the comments as compliments. i for one think when it comes to girls, the shorter the better.