How do you cope when your boyfriend has MANY friends, and you have none?

[idontreallyknow25]

My boyfriend has so many friends. And he definitely uses it to his advantage. He literally is never alone. He never has to feel boredom. And he’s got many friends wanting his attention.

That’s probably healthy and normal, and I’m just damaged. Please don’t come @ me, I’m trying to better myself 🥺. But, sometimes I find myself feeling lonely that he doesn’t rely on my nearly a quarter as much. Like, if we argue, he’s got distractions. It feels like e
he never really NEEDS me or my attention. When he’s with me for too long he misses his friends. It doesn’t feel that way vice versa. It may be projecting, but it’s easy to feel like when he does just talk to me, it’s because briefly no ones available- and when they become available he’s gone unless we’re actively doing something. Or like i’m holding him back from his friends. Sometimes I feel like leaving him for someone more like me, but I feel like thats selfish, and he’s a really great guy.

I know the simple answer is - make more friends. And I’m trying, but it doesn’t happen overnight especially with covid and social anxiety combined. Any tips to cope in the meanwhile?

[Fayeleo]

You need you feel good about how you are as a person.

When younger, I also for a period envy people who are just so comfortable making friends, having those talks with anyone. But when I age, I realize that is just not me. I cannot force myself to be some socially promoted image. I cannot tell you how many times I was in a party and I secretly wished that I was home alone reading, or watching a film. Those parties literally "bore" me with these blah blah blah hahahaha meaningless talks. I know there are people truly enjoy these, and good for them, but that is just not me. I have my ways of winding down and making use of my time.

Back to you, you should not feel "bad" just because he has more friends than you. Ask yourself, do you really LIKE his life style? If yes, then the easiest way will be ask him to take you along with him to these parties/gatherings. I do not see why he would hesitate to blend you in. If you try few times and feel it is NOT your thing, then do not force yourself. You get your answer - you are just not like him for that front. As silly as it sounds, if now the trend is to wear underwear above your T shirt, would you go with it? If they promote all of those things and if you wear you are the hottest chick on the street, would you just blindly forcing yourself to it? Probably no right? I will definitely stick to my White T and Jeans look. Same thing here, you do not have to feel BAD for not being the same. But you need to find a life style that you like and that nurtures you and then 2nd step is to find a way that you and boyfriend both can enjoy your personal life as well as enough time for this relationship that you and he are having.

[Anonymous]

My girl used to sneak off and suck them off