My boyfriend has so many friends. And he definitely uses it to his advantage. He literally is never alone. He never has to feel boredom. And he’s got many friends wanting his attention.
That’s probably healthy and normal, and I’m just damaged. Please don’t come @ me, I’m trying to better myself 🥺. But, sometimes I find myself feeling lonely that he doesn’t rely on my nearly a quarter as much. Like, if we argue, he’s got distractions. It feels like e
he never really NEEDS me or my attention. When he’s with me for too long he misses his friends. It doesn’t feel that way vice versa. It may be projecting, but it’s easy to feel like when he does just talk to me, it’s because briefly no ones available- and when they become available he’s gone unless we’re actively doing something. Or like i’m holding him back from his friends. Sometimes I feel like leaving him for someone more like me, but I feel like thats selfish, and he’s a really great guy.
I know the simple answer is - make more friends. And I’m trying, but it doesn’t happen overnight especially with covid and social anxiety combined. Any tips to cope in the meanwhile?
That’s probably healthy and normal, and I’m just damaged. Please don’t come @ me, I’m trying to better myself 🥺. But, sometimes I find myself feeling lonely that he doesn’t rely on my nearly a quarter as much. Like, if we argue, he’s got distractions. It feels like e
he never really NEEDS me or my attention. When he’s with me for too long he misses his friends. It doesn’t feel that way vice versa. It may be projecting, but it’s easy to feel like when he does just talk to me, it’s because briefly no ones available- and when they become available he’s gone unless we’re actively doing something. Or like i’m holding him back from his friends. Sometimes I feel like leaving him for someone more like me, but I feel like thats selfish, and he’s a really great guy.
I know the simple answer is - make more friends. And I’m trying, but it doesn’t happen overnight especially with covid and social anxiety combined. Any tips to cope in the meanwhile?
