I decided to end a couple really close friendships in March this year, I’m still trying to cope with it. Any tips on how to cope/grieve?

[Anonymous]

I’m going to be in 10th grade this August. I made a really hard decision in March to end being friends with 2 girls that I was really close to since the first week of my 9th grade year. After I ended being friends with them, they started talking about me behind my back, tried to get my real friends to turn against me, and we’re just being really mean to me.

One of the girls (K) was mean to me during our friendship. We would get into fights about stupid little things and then she would ignore me for a day or 2 and then come up to me the next day and give me a hug like nothing ever happened. She then always would talk about me right in front of me to my used to be guy friend and they would both just know that they were hurting me and never cared.

I ended up not wanting to go to school at all because I was scared of them and that they would do something to make me upset on purpose. I’m still trying to cope with it and grieving even though it was a couple months ago and now I’m on summer vacation.

They used to make me cry on purpose. Whenever they did see me cry they would look at me and just laugh at me. I don’t even want to go back to school next year because I’m so scared of them. Is this normal? Can someone please give me advice on how to cope/grieve with this?

[Chill_Thoughts]

You're brave and amazing for cutting them off. They're just pathetic losers that feel truly insecure about themselves and that when you cut them off felt really really worthless.
I'm not saying this to make you feel good, I know that's the case because of 2 things: I know how we were when we had your age and because of how they've been relentlessly mean to you... If you were really that pathetic and unimportant they would never do those things to you, they only do it because if they see you sad, they don't feel as bad about themselves...
So here's what you do, you spend more time with your real friends, you tighten those bonds and you rely on them. At the same time you absolutely put face to those 2 little shits, even if you want to cry, you don't give them the satisfaction. Tough it out, ignore them and distract yourself with your friends. You'll see they'll stop and you won't even care because you'll already be over it

[Asker]

Thank you! I really appreciate it! So far high school has been the worst.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, let go of the past and focus on making some new friends. And stay strong, because you did the right thing.

[Asker]

Thank you. I’ve been trying to forget about it but it’s been really hard for me.

[Wise4myage]

We’ll focus on the positive.

[Asker]

Thank you. I will try to focus on the positive.