My 3-year relationship just ended—how do I cope with this heartbreak?

Question

My relationship of 3 years ended, how can I deal with all the heartbreak, pain and sorrow?

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

It's honestly a work in progress. Some days will be easier than others. I will say do not get into another relationship or start dating until you feel completely healed which many will say doesn't take long but when you've been with someone longer than a year, it will because you've gotten so used to being with this person and opened up your heart to them. That kind of bond doesn't just go away just because they left and stopped loving you.

Friends and family are your go to! Go out as much as possible! Spend a lot of time with them because they will help you not think about the loss so much.

Don't blame yourself for the loss especially if it ended amicably. It is something that many of us go through and we put a lot of guilt on ourselves about how if only we did this or that, they may not have left or you may not have needed to leave if it was you who ended it.

But I will leave you with this... it really does take a lot of time but it will heal you eventually. 💜

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Right now, your brain is essentially going through withdrawal, but recovering is much easier than what most people say. You don't have to "fix" yourself today. Your only job right now is to get through today. Then do it again tomorrow.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Firstly , attempt to accept the loss. It makes sense that it hurts !!.

Don’t give into the feeling that you wasted that 3 years , just because it ended doesn’t mean it was all for nothing , loving someone deeply is never a waste.

Right now it likely feels like the rest of your life has changed in a heartbeat. But it won’t define the rest of your life even though it might feel like it right now

Sometimes the hardest part of love isn’t loosing someone , it’s loosing the life you imagined having with them

Most of all !! … be patient with yourself. You don’t have to get over this today , tomorrow or even next month , life will go on though and you will be happy again

Heartbreak is may be a risk of love , but avoiding love to avoid heartbreak will cost you more.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I've had a few heartbreaks, ending relationships, including getting divorced after 20+ years. I've learned the best thing to do involves two steps:

1 - take a short while to grieve

2 - find someone to start a new relationship

That worked for me. I am married again, 9 years and counting.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why did the relationship end? Did he end it, did you, or was it a mutual decision?

Cyfris · Answer

Accept that you haven't lost anything... All that stuff happened and will always be a part of you... Realize you instead gained an opportunity to find some greater potential... No more time on what does not work and time for finding what does... The ability to learn from the failure and adapt your strategy to achieve your goals.. discover what you need in another to fill in the places you lack... gives you strength when you feel weak. hears when you scream silently, Is a shield when you're afraid. whatever it is so that as you grow together the tree you grow will be strong to stand any storm and bare fruit so sweet you'll want no other

loveproblemsolutions · Answer

Ending a 3-year relationship can feel like losing a big part of your life. It’s completely normal to feel sadness, confusion, anger, or even emptiness after a breakup. Healing from heartbreak takes time, but there are healthy ways to cope and slowly regain emotional balance. Some people also explore love problem solutions or relationship guidance to help them process the breakup, gain emotional healing, and understand whether reconciliation is possible or if it’s healthier to move on.
Remember that healing doesn’t happen overnight. Many people who go through deep heartbreak eventually discover new strength, self-understanding, and better relationships in the future Be patient with yourself—you deserve peace and happiness again.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. A three-year relationship isn’t easy to let go of… so what you’re feeling is completely normal.

The best thing you can do right now is give yourself time and lean on friends or family… focus on taking care of yourself. It won’t hurt this intensely forever, even though it feels like it right now. Just be kind to yourself.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Find distraction... Whether that's friends, traveling, finding another guy or anything else that gets you to not think about your ex doesn't matter... Just find anything that works for you. Nothing worse than having too much time to think about the stuff that makes you unhappy.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Cry about it for a while, have a rot day or two just to keep crying about it, do some journaling, a little soul-searching, take the lessons you’re meant to take from the end of the relationship, accept them, breathe deep, and move on

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for life there are so many things worth trying & when it comes to love don’t give up on trying or trying again.

As for you it’s time for you to face the sunshine & let the shadows cast behind you. As for life it moves on & it moves forward & day by day forward you will move as well.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone new so go have some fun, get back out there & remember condoms prevent minivans.

MisterWack · Answer

No one can tell you what to feel or how long to feel.
Heartbreak, pain, sorrow comes at a genuine loss of love which sucks.

Basically, try to reflect on the kind, wonderful, amazing people in your life now and spend time with those that you hold dear, find a safe space to share your feelings as you try to go on with your life, and do things that make you happy to occupy your mind from what once was.

DarKnight36 · Answer

Thirty-year marriages can end in an instant, Hannah. Look at it from this perspective. Okay, I'm not belittling you, let's empathize. Maybe you loved him very much, but take inspiration from people who are in worse situations. Life goes on, and it will come and go like this...

Master_Debator · Answer

Get through the stages of greif. This is just like when a loved one dies.  Once you accept it... figure out your plan to move on without him.

Tarifa · Answer

Time is the only thing that will heal wounds. But I also think broken hearts never heal completely. Just hang in there and ask friends for help. Keep yourself and your mind occupied. Don't despair, you need to close that door to be able to open new ones.

Send me a direct message if you want to talk about it.

Theunfadeable · Answer

Just wait. If you want to get over them fast then detoxify your body. People are biochemical electrical machines and your attraction to your boyfriend was created and maintained by chemicals and pheromones. In a relationship you are actually physically addicted to the drugs your partners body produces and when you break up you go through physical withdrawal. Usually it takes a month detox and recover from a drug habit if yo do it without more drugs.

TediumIsTheWorstPain · Answer

You could try drinking, or meaningless sex with strangers, or possibly you could join a cult.

If none of those work, try to find an absorbing activity. Something you can pour all your excess time and energy and emotional turmoil into. Join a gym, or write a novel, or get your Master's degree. Something like that.

Hope it works out for you.

ABitShattered · Answer

I have always said you have to go through the storm in order to know truly understand how to work through the pain. But right now I'm sure this feels raw. Focusing on yourself with prayer, exercise, self care, all of these things can help you. The song I am linking has always helped me. I hope it can help you.

https://youtu. be/c-bYYCE37jU? si=KjVDEJy1JWEih0vI

jshm2 · Answer

You don't. You wasted one and half years of your life and should be ashamed, instead.

If he's not putting on a ring after about year, you're just his free cock sleeve, maid and cook. He will just ditch you for a newer model

foxsquirrell · Answer

Go for a hike in the forest. But probably only time will do the job, unless you connect with someone else before long.

zagor · Answer

Just take a break from relationships for a while. Don't rush into a rebound fling.

oldman26 · Answer

Life experiences are never wasted, just realize that if it had gone further it could have gotten worse, be thankful, move on

ArrowheadSW · Answer

One thing is to write down all the reasons why you two are no longer a good match. Also hang out with friends and socialize.

AgentG111 · Answer

Time heels, remember the good things and move forward with making your next relationship better and stronger and talk about and discuss things that this one didn't have to help foster a stronger bond.

slatyb · Answer

Hang with friends. Eventually you will meet someone else and you won't mess your ex anymore.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

With whiskey, cigars, and a series of poor decisions that follow.

MrChinaski · Answer

I'm sorry. Would you like to provide some more context?

MikeMcMansion · Answer

Say he hit you and call the police… lmao

KittyKaneko · Answer

I’m sorry to hear that ): I have only had one boyfriend and it didn’t workout but it didn’t last long..

coachTanthony · Answer

day by day stay busy

LC75LC71 · Answer

Time. Based on your age this probably isn't your first rodeo..

Paige2006 · Answer

As the saying goes... "Time Heals All Wounds."

Anonymous · Answer

You're lucky you had a relationship, I never had one, all I had was unrequited love and heartbreak.

Brady · Answer

Look 4 someone else. Sometimes time heals. Research how 2 find someone compatible with u 2 marry.

Anonymous · Answer

Try to stay healthy  Avoid alcohol  Exercise  Stay strong mentally   Look on the positive, you are free to meet lots of guys and there are many fish in the sea

Kelly6 · Answer

Asking on gag, how should you feel and fix it?  Weird

exitseven · Answer

Hang tough, you can do this.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why did it end? Is there no way to fix it back?

Ariesman81 · Answer

I've heard cats are good for that

MasterKS · Answer

Get a better one quickly.

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