My friend 25, just left her boyfriend because she found out he was cheating on her via social media, she said he had a ton of female friends which I SEE as a red flag because he’s not valuing her and he has these other women as an option, anything can be going on behind closed doors let’s be real it’s 2023 as well and social media and meeting more people is endless it’s actually scary and sad.. although people should have self control and respect, some people just are pathetic and total pieces of shit. She found out he was cheating with a so called”female friend” and he stopped giving her attention, he would take hours to reply, and he was putting her down for her features. I don’t have any guy friends in my relationship because I don’t see the point, I just find it weird and disrespectful especially because men are always looking for that “right time” to make a move, and I’ve had men in the past try to get with me while I had a boyfriend and I would never ever cheat on my fiancé, my fiancé also agrees with not having female friends because I know how women are as well. Thoughts?
Does my friend have a right to feel this way?
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We both see this as a red flag but she told me she felt uncomfortable that he had more female friends than male which that’s like something fuck boys do.
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I think your friend has a right to be hurt by it. But I don't really agree with the whole shouldn't have female friends. To me that's a slight concern as well my closest friend for a long time now is a woman I think overall my friends are pretty split between gender. But there is nothing there and never will be. I just find I'm more comfortable in talking to women then men. But everyone feels how they do.
I am curious if the opposite is true so if it's a red flag for a partner to have female friends does that mean the same for you and your friend with male friends?
It seems you didn’t read my whole post…I said I did NOT have male friends or talk to guys. Why is it hard for guys to believe women like me exist? And not everyone needs such friends, it can turn toxic anyways and people can’t be trusted.
I have no reason to have male friends I just find it weird since I’m in a relationship and whenever I did have male friends in the past they tried to always get something more and refused to respect my relationship so yeah.
I did read your post but I do use the app so can't refer back. Its not that I don't believe it I just couldn't remember if you had mentioned it and was checking to see if there was a double standard at play. It's very easy to believe there are women who don't have male friends quite honestly.
Sadly that can be the case and honestly if they weren't respecting your relationship or your boundaries compared to what you set in terms of being friends. Then they were never your friend really.