he texts me more than I text him. he tells me in texts and in person that he misses me and likes me and so on. he's phys and verbally affectionate. he acts like he likes me more than just a booty call but we still seem to stay in pause like this. I told him once in a vmail that I wanted to end things if the feelings were one sided and that I didn't want to get into it further and get hurt if he only wanted sex. this time he didn't mention anything or answer that. but he still treats me the same and sees me as often! he's just acted like he never got that. and I knowwww he has to have gotten it. what does that mean? most guys would have just said f this, I can get another friends with benefits that doesn't get so blunt and opinionated with me. right? why didn't he take that out to stop talking to me and end things easily for him so he wouldn't have to further himself into a somewhat possible relationship with me. he will also be fully divorced in a couple months. I know that is the majority of the reasons why he prob acts like he does and sends me mixed signals.
I just can't tell if he is really a nice guy and likes me or is just feeding me lines to keep me around. he is a very attractive guy and could find a new friends with benefits easily so its not like I'm the only option he has and that's why he didn't break it off. I just can't seem to read him. my bluntness has always scared other fwb's off. but not this one.
please let me know what I should do? should I just end it and not talk to him anymore anyway? he has always been sweet and shown me respect when we're together. so he's not a total jerk, just doesn't seem to make the move to move things forward and I don't know if that's because his divorce isn't fully final for 2 months?...
thanks a lot! I need advice
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It's FWB , plain and simple. FWB doesn't mean the guy doesn't have any consideration for you. They will still try to act like a decent human being, but in the end if you have a casual sexual deal, that is all you have and these deals rarely ever turn into something else.
Oh, the idea that a cute guy can easily find another sex partner doesn't hold water. Theoretically they can but realistically it's a pain in the ass. So, once a guy finds someone he can have sex with that isn't expecting anything more from them they will stick with it until it doesn't work for them anymore or they are ready to find a girl they want a relationship with (yes, someone else, not you). Finding new FWB is actually a lot of work. Oh, and they will just ignore comments we make about not wanting to get hurt if all they want is sex. They will even ignore comments about how we want a relationship and need to move on. All sorts of stuff, as long as you take their calls when they are horny and put out when they come over, they will pretty much continue to have sex with you. Been there, done that. Move on from this guy and never go back to an FWB deal. Look for a boyfriend instead.