How should I make a move on the guy I love?

[Anonymous]

We are very good friends... and I know we do like each other. I would like to make a move and tell him I have feelings for him. But I don't know how to do it.

[ManOnFire]

I would ask him if he wants to do something this weekend, get something to eat, etc. and use that time as an opportunity to let him know you have something you want to tell him. And then tell him. Say you have feelings for him. But the biggest thing is, you need to be prepared if he doesn't feel the same way.

[Asker]

:) May I ask you something? Do men take women for granted if they tell you they like you? What do men think about women making the first move?

[ManOnFire]

I think most men love it when a woman tells him they like him. I always have. It makes things so much easier when you know a woman clearly is into you, and you can talk to her so much better and get comfortable with her. I think there are only a handful of men who would take that for granted, and I imagine they are probably the kinds of men who have always gotten love and attention from their families growing up, or have always had women pursue them.

[Asker]

I understand :) thank you for encouraging me and being kind enough to answer my question :)

[ManOnFire]

So are you going to take my advice? lol

[Asker]

Yes of course :) thank you once again :)

[Anonymous]

Slowly. You haven't sent that type of energy to him. If you do it all of a sudden you're probably not going to get the response you desire. He'll be caught off guard.

[Asker]

I do think he somehow sensed it, but is not sure what I feel about him... then how should I do it?

[Anonymous]

Tell him I'm in love with you and then push send. That's how you do it.

[Grovermint]

Tell him. I like you romantically would you like to date me? Something like that.

[Asker]

How would you feel if a girl came up to you and told you they liked you? Would you get intimidated?

[Heolurt]

Wait and do nothing like most women, don't worry his psychic abilities will kick in and he will ask you out.

[Asker]

:) are you serious or just joking?

[Heolurt]

As a female you have a higher probability of him saying yes than he has so just ask him.

[Asker]

:) Thank you for your sense of humour and positive answer :) ... do men prefer to be asked out rather than just ask women out? You wouldn't consider them scary or cheap, right? :)

[Heolurt]

I want to say yes but the only time a girl asked me out it turned out to be some big prank on me in front of a lot of people, outside of that the only other reasons girls come up to me is normally to try and ask me to move or rude ones comment on my face, so I can't speak for all guys but for me if a girl approaches me, I am cautious.

[Asker]

I understand you completely, and I really don't appreciate girls humiliating guys like this, I think it shows how low their self esteem is.. I am sorry for them... and I understand where you come from... thank you so much for your kind comments :)

[In_Trance]

Make a move on him the way you'd want him to make a move on you

[Asker]

I would have loved him to make a move on me by just telling me how much he cared about me and how much he liked me... and that I would have loved to get to know him better:) would it be OK?

[In_Trance]

Absolutely

[slatyb]

Just kiss him.

[Asker]

Ummm... are you serious?

[slatyb]

Somewhat serious, yes. Or you can just ask him if he would consider dating you.