I have a friend named Craig who is obsessed with single people & tries to get them hooked up or married. He has aggravated me to the point where I’ve slowly distanced myself from him. He used to call/text me every day to ask for updates or any hits on dating apps, send me unsolicited articles/advice about dating, & always blamed me if things didn’t workout with someone. I had several conversations with him face-to-face, via phone call, & text saying that I will approach him when I’m ready to talk about dating & not vice versa. He kept violating my boundaries. It took me blocking him on social media for him to get the message.
We even have a mutual friend, Rachel, that he tried to set me up with. It never worked out. Rachel moved out of state a few months ago. Craig told me it was my fault she left & I should’ve done more to keep her here & make her feel at home here. I felt bad about this for a while.
Yesterday, I decided to reach out to Rachel & ask her how her move went. The conversation was going good until she asked me if I still hung out with Craig & his wife. I told her no, mainly because of his pushiness with dating.
Then she opened up about how it was always awkward for her whenever I was around. I asked her if I did anything wrong & if my actions contributed to her leaving, she said no. When Craig & his wife approached her about me, she said she told them that she was depressed. She wanted to move back home to be with her family. She was not in a good mental state to date anyone. Instead of respecting her wishes, Craig continued to set her up with different guys for the remainder of her time here, even with a guy he said he would never set her up with. He also made up a fib that she said that she wished I wouldn’t have given up so easily on her & moved on. He wanted to know what our text/phone conversations are like & blamed me for not chasing her more.
I feel like I need to confront him, but I don’t not how to do it in a way he’ll understand & respect.
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Just cut this guy out completely.
He doesn't seem worth the trouble and he'll learn better by losing everyone he crosses boundaries on.
Also, he doesn't seem the type capable of reasoning. So you'd only be wasting your breath and effort.
I think you need to cut this person from your life. He's disrespectful to you and obviously others. Why keep someone like that around? What benefits to the friendship is he even bringing if he's always making you uncomfortable block his number from your phone and find a better friend. Better yet someone who is aa friend because if he's disrespectful he's not a friend he's just a shitty person.