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Long story short, we matched & spoke for a few wks on bumble a few months ago. He asked to meet up, the times he gave weren’t working & I was new at a job/stressed at the time. He follows up again during this time & I didn’t follow through, flash fwd to a little over a month ago & I regretted not meeting up. I sent him a well thought message & he never replied so I assumed he wasn’t interested. 2 wks ago, we end up matching on another app & I was shocked. He msgs me saying he remembers me & I told him I tried reaching out recently but apparently he didn’t know bc he hasn’t checked bumble in a while. He is the one who then asked for another chance from me since I thought he left me on read a few months ago.

We met up for first time last Sat afternoon, he bought me food at this casual Mexican spot & he seemed okay with continuing talking but I ended it a little over the hr mark (said I had to finish errands). He asked if I had something planned & I said yes, he wanted to know where my car was & wanted to walk me to my car. I was kind of walking in front of him though, I said thanks and he said have a good rest of your day. It’s not like he ended the meet-up or there was awkward silence during it, I felt like we both spoke enough/convo flowed fine but I must’ve overestimated it. Everyone on the internet is saying I made it obvious I wasn’t interested but he was kind of reserved too, I’ve acted less interested meeting guys before & they still wanted to meet again🤷🏻‍♀️. Sounds mutual in this case

I know it sounds like a really stupid question. My anxiety is typically pretty bad, even worse when it comes to working & social interactions. Prior to this job, I worked in financial aid for ~2 years. It started out stressful but I ended up getting good feedback from mgmt/my metrics were apparently one of the better on the team. I sought new work due to the workload at the time & wanting better pay. Now I’m in my 4th week & this is a school I’ve been trying to get into for a hot minute.

I’ve trained with the mgr & supervisor, both have told me I’m doing well & I’m not even asking for feedback (yet). Mgr felt the need to let the whole team know that I was picking up fast when I was first introduced to them. This job is more in depth vs the last job & she even told me that they only hire people with experience now bc of how much there is to it. Prior to this wk, I was w/ the mgr training & got that 1:1 attention. Now, they’ve thrown me into the deep end & I’m doing *work work*. I have SO many questions & just message the supervisor, too many unknowns. I have notes I took & training resources but still feel like I might need direction if I’m working something new, especially if I didn’t work through an actual scenario before.

I’m not sure if I’m expecting hand holding in the sense of wanting more extensive training or they’re just expecting me to ask as I go, as I work through a new task. The supervisor said that they expect me to ask a ton of questions & she said something today like “I think you caught onto doing an estimate quicker than I did when I was first training”. I know they wouldn’t lie to me & I guess that reassurance should be enough to get me through the brunt of it but it just never is. I REALLY WANT TO MAKE THIS JOB WORK.

We met up for first time about 4 PM yesterday, he bought me food at this casual Mexican spot & he seemed okay with continuing talking but I ended it a little over the hr mark (said I had to finish errands). He asked if I had something planned & I said yes, he wanted to know where my car was & wanted to walk me to my car. I was kind of walking in front of him though, I said thanks and he said have a good rest of your day. It’s not like he ended the meet-up or there was awkward silence during it, I felt like we both spoke enough/convo flowed fine but I must’ve overestimated it

We met up for first time about 4-5 hrs ago, he bought me food at this casual Mexican spot & he seemed okay with continuing talking but I ended it a little over the hr mark. He asked if I had something planned & I said yes, he wanted to know where my car was & wanted to walk me to my car. I was kind of walking in front of him though, I said thanks and he said have a good rest of your day. It’s not like he ended the meet-up or there was awkward silence at all, I felt like we both spoke enough but guess I overestimated it 🤷🏻‍♀️