Should I blame myself for this guy not following up with me after meeting last week?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, we matched & spoke for a few wks on bumble a few months ago. He asked to meet up, the times he gave weren’t working & I was new at a job/stressed at the time. He follows up again during this time & I didn’t follow through, flash fwd to a little over a month ago & I regretted not meeting up. I sent him a well thought message & he never replied so I assumed he wasn’t interested. 2 wks ago, we end up matching on another app & I was shocked. He msgs me saying he remembers me & I told him I tried reaching out recently but apparently he didn’t know bc he hasn’t checked bumble in a while. He is the one who then asked for another chance from me since I thought he left me on read a few months ago.

We met up for first time last Sat afternoon, he bought me food at this casual Mexican spot & he seemed okay with continuing talking but I ended it a little over the hr mark (said I had to finish errands). He asked if I had something planned & I said yes, he wanted to know where my car was & wanted to walk me to my car. I was kind of walking in front of him though, I said thanks and he said have a good rest of your day. It’s not like he ended the meet-up or there was awkward silence during it, I felt like we both spoke enough/convo flowed fine but I must’ve overestimated it. Everyone on the internet is saying I made it obvious I wasn’t interested but he was kind of reserved too, I’ve acted less interested meeting guys before & they still wanted to meet again🤷🏻‍♀️. Sounds mutual in this case

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[Oliverlogan263]

Don't be so hard on yourself sis! Meeting randos from dating apps can be stressful for anyone. It sounds like it went fine, and it's unreasonable for people online to decide they can read all the signals perfectly.

From how you describe it, ending after an hour does seem pretty mutual and low-key. If he seemed engaged during and asked to walk you to your car afterwards, that's a good sign he didn't hate it either. Totally normal first date length too.

I wouldn't blame yourself at all. You were friendly, he paid, and conversation flowed - seems pretty positive overall to me! Maybe he's just as shy as you and wondering if you liked it too.

My advice would be to leave the ball in his court for now. If he wants to see you again, hopefully he reaches out soon. And if not, don't overthink it. You were pleasant company and that's all you can do! Keep putting yourself out there sis, I'm sure the right guy is right around the corner.

[Staximus]

You said you had to leave after 1 hour, and for a trivial reason. You made it obvious you wanted to end the date early and get the hell out of there. Of course he's not going to call you back after that. In your head it was time to go, so you must have had a reason why you wanted to leave. Every relationship doesn't start out with all the fireworks and whirlwind romance, life is not a movie. Sometimes you need to get to know each other a little bit better. If something in the back of your head was telling you that it wasn't right then just trust your instincts and move on with your life. It's not that big of a deal. If you wanted to see him again then you should have made it obvious. Live and learn

[Flower7]

It sounds like you don't have time for dating right now, if you can't make it to dates and then when you finally do go on one, you rush through it. You ended the date early and even walked very quickly to your car like you were in a hurry to get away. Maybe stay off dating sites until you have more time.

[AlinaJanowska18]

You didn't lose anything because he didn't come or call. And he will lose a beautiful girl who is ready to love. He lost everything, and you lost nothing. Everything will be fine dear 🫶