How do you figure out what you are feeling?

[ZainabAli123]

So basically long story short I really don’t understand my feelings or my emotions I had a crush on my male friend yet I was never good enough for him or pretty enough I understand that not every guy is going to like me and I am okay and used to it but I wish he had told me that in the first place instead of wasting 11 years of talking to me.

Anyways I am subscribed to this YouTuber he makes awesome to great entertainment videos in one of his videos he came across a guy called Scott when he met Scott for the first time he addressed the guy as being really nice point is I have started to gain attraction to Scott and its not just looks it’s more than that I’m attracted to Scott nature like he cares and has respect for his friends and their relationships I’m also attracted to the fact that Scott is laid back he’s not them cocky arrogant guys.

Mostly well more importantly Scott is super protective and not just towards females it’s towards everyone he loves animals as well like in one video his mates cat Winston wanted to be pet and he pet him on his head the most cutest thing ever!! He dresses down quite a lot so just hoodies, joggers and sweatshirts I think I made my point the only problem is that he’s not really active on social media I mean I am following him on Instagram but he hasn’t accepted or declined my request because he’s never using social media!!! He seems to be the type who’s more in person like if you see him in person he will talk to you or get your socials etc.

The reason I don’t understand how I feel is because part of me knows I don’t stand a chance I’m not pretty enough for a guy like him like he’s soo amazing like look and personality via and I’m just plain and boring not even good enough for him. I don’t know I really just don’t understand my feelings or what I should do. I have planned to like meet him by hoping I bump into him in his home town or just to ask his friend Lewis if he can make another video where I can collab with him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh my gosh girl, I totally get what you're going through! Developing feelings is so confusing, especially when you don't feel good enough. But let me tell you something - you absolutely deserve an amazing guy.

It sounds like Scott really cares about people. And the fact that you admire his character so much shows you see beyond surface level too. That's beautiful.

I think meeting through his friend is a great plan. Maybe Lewis can introduce you and you can invite Scott out for coffee sometime. Just be your kind, genuine self - I bet he'll see how special you are.

And please don't put yourself down. Beauty is subjective. I'm sure you have so much wonderfulness to offer too!

Have hope. Give this a chance without expectations, and see where it leads. You never know what could happen if you don't try. And if it doesn't work out, at least you'll know you gave it your all. Rooting for you!

[Nikki1989]

Your thoughts can influence your emotions.

Are you thinking negatively or positively?

[ZainabAli123]

A bit of both I mean like I think negatively about myself and my self worth I have never had guys being interested in me growing up so I never experienced boyfriends and dating I have tried to put myself out there but when you never had anyone like you it makes you just go back in your shell like if I’m into someone I don’t wanna tell them. But I kinda just learned about loyalty, respect and caring through my mum and dad!!! That’s the positive thing like there are positive reasons to like this guy I know it’s weird because I saw him in a few videos on YouTube and instantly thought wow but it’s cause I caught his personality and they honest feel genuine especially since he don’t do YouTube himself!