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How healthy do you feel your diet is (e. g. sugar, salt, fried, refined, etc..).

Since I've been with my Chinese/American fiance, I've discovered a breadth of foods I didn't know existed. That's because they only exist in chinese markets and around large group of Chinese people in the big city. My diet changed for the better with support, encouragement, and opportunity. What's really different is my chinese family... eat's very little sugar. I grew up primarily on sugar, and sugar does lots of damage over time.

I wonder if AA's have opportunities to try different foods, cultural foods and what works for you.. to find better options? Or if you mainly eat out fast food.

Examples:
Chinese - unless you are in a big city with many chinese, you've likely never seen "real" chinese or Asian foods. "American" chinese is different
Mexican -
Italian - pizza, pasta
Jewish
Ethiopian
French
Thai - you lucky if find good thai food!
Malasian
Vietnamese
Korean
Japanese
American - sandwiches, burgers, fries,

I consider myself a high functioning adult these days; I was a professional "Composer/Recording Artist" for a number of years after gaining a PhD in Music Composition from Birmingham Conservatoire. However the money was sporadic at best so I changed careers and became a Chef, quickly rising through both the ranks and up the quality spectrum over 10 years to eventually become a Sous Chef at a 2* Michelin Establishment in London. However due to relationship responsibilities picking up (my fiance is a doctor and we both work 16hr days). Which would make having Kids... tricky to say the least. So I changed career again so I could maybe work from home. So now I am training to be an Ethical Hacker (Cyber Security Engineer). Anyway, my point is, most out people out there whom I have worked with, have always considered me very capable/dependable. So when they eventually find out that I come from a highly abusive background, they get taken aback... and some have even accused me of outright lying about it...( I can only assume that this is because "in their mind" you can't come from that kind of background and be anything other than dysfunctional...) Unusually, it's also often Women who have accused me of lying about this... and I am really not sure why... Guys tend to take it at face value (or even give me "props for not letting it affect me"). To clarify, my mum was diagnosed with Cancer when I was about 3, and my father was away on business abroad a lot, so I was only ever with her (watching her slowly fall apart), she died when I was 6.. my dad remarried, who I can only describe as a sociopath, she emotionally/mentally and physically abused me, gaslighting at every opportunity to make me and my father think we were loosing the plot.. I spent a lot of time believing I was having "black outs" because I couldn't remember hurting myself in the way she said..(because it was her). To this day I struggle a lot with trusting women.. I have to force myself to not assume the worst

"Testing" your partner means that you aren't confident about their intentions and you deliberately stage a situation where they have the opportunity to reveal their true character. For instance, a girl is engaged but wants to know that her fiance won't cheat. So she gets the help of her younger sister. Future sister-in-law calls the guy and asks if he can come over to fix a leaky faucet. When he arrives, she is home alone, and wearing seductive lingerie. She tries to seduce him but he walks out of her house without touching her. When he exits the house, his fiance is waiting outside to congratulate him on passing the test.

If someone tests you even once, it strongly suggests that they don't trust you. And you might get tested again. Who wants to live knowing that everything that happens to you just might be a deliberately staged test? I think testing a partner - if they learn about the test - raises the possibility of a break up to a near certainty.

Have you ever tested a partner? How did that work? Have you ever been tested? How did you feel when yo learned that you had been tested?