Should I have a wedding or not?

[Anonymous]

My adventist mom never accepted that I’m not in church anymore. When I got on vacation and stay with her, I am not allowed to wear jewelry and she wants me to hide my tattoos for other family members. She also didn’t tell nobody I’m living with my fiancé because that would mean that I’m having sex before marriage. I’m 23. I wanna do my wedding where my family is, but I feel a lot of pressure (even tho she didn’t tell me) to behave a certain way. I mean, I feel pressure of wearing jewelry for the first time with all our family there, I’m feeling pressure to not play certain music cause I was raised in church. I feel pressure not being able to dance for my fiance in a sexy way because of family members and my mom. And all this is very exhausting. It makes me feeel kinda depressed but I do want a wedding. Should I just go to court and get married or what should I do?

[Alwayreckles93]

You are an adult have fun enjoy life with your future husband have the wedding that you want you and your boyfriend are paying for it. You don't owe your parents nothing. So not secrefice your happy moments over toxic family if possible cut tides with them even your mom. Your mom does not care about your opinion though or feelings she only cares about look good Infront of people.

[saturnianqueen]

god… i feel you so much. i know how painful it is. you need to keep being you and remain low key unfortunately. and if you want to have a wedding then have it. if not then don’t. it’s your life babe ❤️

[slatyb]

"When I got on vacation and stay with her, I am not allowed to wear jewelry" Not allowed? Or else what? You are an adult. Are you still living at home? Is she paying for these vacations?

Have the wedding you want and don't worry about anyone else's opinion of your behavior. If they don't like it, that's not your problem. They will get over it, or they won't.

[AviatorTom]

You and your fiancé should have the wedding that you two want. It's your life, not your parents'.

[sheikalana]

Get married in court just the two of you and then later on have a family lunch/dinner to celebrate your wedding nothing too big a more intimate ceremony. What's wrong with wearing jewelry by the way?

[2021biguy]

If you really love each other go to Vegas and get married and stay away from toxic family members that want to ruin your life.

[rosemilk]

you can get married literally anywhere really quick, doesn't have to be vegas... i hate when people say this.

[LegendaryIcon]

Living with a guy, before marriage?

THIS isn't THE NINETIES

[Anonymous]

it's not the right time...

[jahaims]

Waste of money