My best friend kicked me out of her wedding party because I'm pregnant, and my due date is the day after her wedding. Am I allowed to be mad?

[Anonymous]

Title really says it all. I shared with everyone on Facebook that my husband and I are expecting our first child a couple weeks ago. Well, I went with my friend to look at bridesmaids dresses, and when we arrived, she asked me about my due date. I told her the date, and she said she doesn't think I should be in the wedding. She doesn't want to risk me going into labor on her day that she's been planning for 2 1/2 years. She's a COVID bride, so it got rescheduled for a later date.

It makes me mad because we've been friends since 6th grade, and to kick me out because I'm pregnant is so insensitive. I told her if I wasn't in the bridal party then I wasn't going to attend at all. She shrugged and said 'that's your decision, but you won't be attending as a bridesmaid.'

My husband thinks she's being a bitch, but my mom said that she can understand it because the day is supposed to be about her union to her husband and my potential to give birth could ruin it and that the attention at her wedding should not be taken off of her for any reason except an emergency and taking me out early makes it easier for her to find a replacement. And my mom said I should respect her decision since she didn't uninvite me, she 'just' took me out of the bridal party.

What does everyone else think? I feel like my friend isn't being much of a friend and she should be happy that I'm having a child, especially since I've had a miscarriage about a year ago and we've been trying for a child for several years. Right now, I feel like I'm being punished for it.

[Dinklex3]

I agree with your mom. This is her day and her wedding and if you do go in labor it definitely takes the attention away from her and becomes something completely different.
I'm sorry about your previous miscarriage, but that has nothing to do with your current situation. Just because she doesn't want you at her bridesmaids party due to your due date, does NOT mean she's not happy about you having a child at all. That's unfair to make that assumption. She wants this one day to be about HER. Not about you. That's all.

[winterfox10]

I get your frustration, but I don't think this is an attention thing for her. There's the health concerns of a pregnant woman in a large group of people during COVID, there's the cost of the dress, number of bridesmaids to groomsmen in the ceremony, making sure everyone looks their best in the wedding photos (because let's face it, you are going to be super prego for that ceremony); if you go into labor on the day of the wedding, it really throws things off. She has put a lot of effort into planning the wedding, so I get her not wanting to take the chance on your pregnancy.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

That is so sad to mistreat a friend cause she's pregnant and it makes no sense and yes she is being a bitch and if anyone says different they need their head to examine just don't get yourself upset and depress cause Lord only knows you this is a crucial period that you are going through and being pregnant and depressed could put stress on the baby I would not go to her wedding and it's sad to think people can be such haters well think this one way paybacks are a bitch and her day is coming.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

[Paris13]

She was a Little Rude and Crude but sorry---She was Right. No more Fight. Forge her and Congrats to your Own---"That's your decision." Your Blessed Event, Don't vent. Being Pregnant, Anything can happen. Maybe people at her own EVENT, Will get Covid. It is going Around the White House Wave as of now.:((xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[Niya2006]

Well I wouldn't have taken you out of the wedding... but I understand why she did. You could go into labor during their wedding , then instead of them enjoying the wedding ( I'm not saying they wouldn't enjoy it if you were in it by the way) they would have to worry about you.

Congrats on the baby!!!

[Notyouraveragegirl01]

Is do the same thing honestly but what I think is completely rude and uncalled for was you threatening to not attend like it's your best friend your supposed to be there for her why would you just bail over something so stupid

[Anonymous]

I completely agree with her. Her plans were already ruined by Covid and the last thing she wants is her best friend going into labour at her wedding. It’s her day and I can understand that it’s a risk she’s not willing to take. That doesn’t make her a bitch.

[Apple1996]

Most people have their baby before their due date so I'm sure youd be able to go with the baby. Pretty stupid she kicked you out of the wedding for that.

[Anonymous]

It’s just bad timing, she could have been more diplomatic about it but I can understand her concern since it’s so close to the wedding date and it really is supposed to be her day so she is trying to avoid any possible problems. I can see both sides to this and it’s just unfortunate that you are due so close but you may end up having it earlier and then who knows

[pigoat]

You could go into labor right there and ruin the whole damn wedding

You don't choose when this happens to you
Life is rng

[Wise4myage]

Best friends don't do things like that, so I would question just how much of a BFF she really is. And I agree with your husband, she is being a bitch and she's being very petty.

[jizzyjay]

I'm not sure I agree that it ruins anything.
U go into labor... so u make a little mess and a few people have to leave... attention gotten for 10 minutes. Oh no?

[0oGreyo0]

Plot twist she not your best friend. You thought she was lol.
Y'all use that word too loosely

[In_Trance]

Why would you be mad? It's her wedding.