Girls, Mom is driving me crazy during wedding planning process. Am I acting like a bridezilla or is she the momzilla?

[Anonymous]

My mother is driving me crazy. She is the type where she believes her opinion is always the correct one and I've always had to appease her in some way to end up getting what I want. I came home today and she immediately bombards me with wedding color schemes. I had already told her what I liked and wanted, but she didn't like it as much and tried to convince me into new schemes. We spent the entire night fighting about what colors I want for MY wedding. I had a dress ready to order. Personally, I am not a huge shopper and don't need to look a lot to know exactly what I want. I've always had an idea of a dream wedding dress and was ecstatic when I found it online. My mom stated that we should go try on wedding dresses one weekend, just to make sure it is what I want. I understand what she is trying to say, but this takes out one of my only free weekends with my crazy work schedule. I was so sure, but now my mom has guilt-tripped me into thinking I might be wrong. I want to get it ordered soon so it gets here on time and the thought of going shopping first when I already know and have what I want annoys me. Me and my fiancée also already discussed our catering and knew what we wanted. However, my mom is insisting upon another place I have never even tried, simply because "it's better". We can only invite so many people and my mom is insisting we invite some of her work friends (who I have never met) and "friends" that we haven't talked to in years. The guest list is already over the limit and I personally want to invite some of MY close friends that have supported me more throughout the years. Am I acting too much like a bridezilla or is she in the right? I understand that she didn't have a nice wedding, because her and my dad's situation was very different at the time and I appreciate all the help she's given me, including financial help. However, I don't want her controlling MY wedding and making it HER wedding. Any advice on how to deal with this conflict?

[nice-girl]

First of all, be grateful that you have a mum to be there at your wedding and don't bring negative energy to such a beautiful day in your life. When you give bad energy to something, even though everything is in the right place, you will find a reason to "ruin" it.
Be grateful that your mum will be at your wedding as not all people in the world have that. My mum died six years ago and I would be happy to have her even for just one more day. I know that this is not the topic of your question, but I think whatever the situation is don't bring negative energy to it.
As for the question if she is right or you, I don't see nothing wrong in inviting a couple more friends of her. As for the colours, I think that maybe she just wants you to hear her opinion and feel like you're organizing this together, but she will give up and let you the choice of colours.

[CaliGirlBH]

Your Mom isn't the one getting married so she should step back and support you and your choices.
I wouldn't let her sway you in her direction its your day and you are the one who needs to be satisfied at the end of the day.
Remind her she isn't getting married you are.

[dreammy]

Actually it's her being momzilla not you being bridezilla, tell her politely it's your wedding not hers, hers had end years ago and that you don't want to invite strangers or those people you haven't seen or talked to, you already prepared where your wedding will be held at and everything is already prepared and she is not the wedding planner or whatever and make her stop trying to have control over your wedding like it's hers. *I apologies for the disrespect to your mother*

[PrettyPriya]

It is YOUR wedding. You should have it the way YOU want it, not your mum or anyone else for that matter.

It is a special day, costs a lot, and should only happen once! Make it all about you!

[Anonymous]

you may be a bit too young if your mother is acting like this.