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I asked this before as a general question, but then thought I should have done it as a poll. Sorry if read and/or replied to the first one.

There is this guy at work who is apparently usually really confident and pretty flirty, but is always kind of awkward around me.

He barely looks me in the eye, but I’m nearly positive that I’ve seen him looking at me out of the corner of my eye.

He took several months to speak to me (other than saying ‘good morning’ once or twice) but is always friendly to me, and seems to stick around for a bit whenever he sees me.

He finally properly introduced himself to me the other day and looked me in the eye and said it was nice to meet me - doesn’t sound like much, I know, but this guy never looks me in the eye! Even if we are having a conversation!

Once he had finally introduced himself, he suddenly kept appearing for the rest of the day - when I don’t usually see him that often. It just seemed a bit too coincidental.

He did ask me what I was doing after work once, but I was busy, then when I asked him the same thing, he answered in a kind of awkward and overly casual way that he was free.

He told me about himself, his home town/state, his interests, and his friends in the first conversation - probably nothing, but I now know more about him and his background than several people on my own team.

I’ve definitely noticed him, but as I don’t really know him yet I wouldn’t go as far to say I like him. I guess I just want to know if he’s noticed me too. I’m great at reading guys when it is my friends they are/are not interested in, but am terrible when it comes to me.

27F Back in Dec, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs. We were in contact via Instagram messages. Later in wk we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see the Spider-Man movie. Eventually I asked he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. I was not as bubbly at movies compared to when we first met up, I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on. He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. When we first met, we ended with a hug. When we spoke on phone, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but at movies it was odd, he sent a message after saying that he wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him. Flash fwd to yesterday, he sends a message on IG with a reference to Xbox exclusives, we used to be back & forth about console wars. He continued to follow me on IG but I removed him when he called it quits, why is he reaching out again?

TL;DR: Am I reading into it too much? Just friendly banter?

I read that in his messages between him and his friend the girl he slept with before me did nothing for him and he struggled to remain hard with her.

People I’ve slept with outside my ex took 10-15 mins to finish first time we had sex. I didn’t notice them struggling to remain hard but I’m sure she never did either. For them taking that long and not seeming madly into that. Did I do nothing for them too?

This same ex also used to take 30 mins at the start to finish with me but never siad this about me in messages. But I really wasn’t into sex then when I did get into it he took only 5 mins.

Have people felt this way about me? Or have I over through and been scarred since reading that?