Players, is it worth the wait or should I leave?

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I've known this 2 years, seeing him consistently for 1 year.

He's 31, is popular with women, and has slept around a lot prior to meeting me (I'm 22, haven't slept with anyone yet). He hasn't been in a relationship for 10 years because he enjoys his lifestyle, only having to answer to himself, and b/c exclusivity for him means he will be loyal to this person for life.

I spend most weekends with him, and he has integrated me with his family and friends.

He hasn't asked me to be exclusive (even after me bringing it up a few times recently and saying I need commitment from him). I never bring up anything long term but he has been increasingly bringing up marriage, children, and a future together.

He hasn't slept with anyone since we started seeing each other and has told me he loves me (which he hasn't said to anyone for about seven years).

I really care about this guy, and want to fall in love with him - but can't knowing he isn't ready to be exclusive yet.

A complication is, he has a colleague clearly interested in him (drove him 3 hours out of town and paid for a $300 craft/wine class with him for Christmas). When I asked, he said he was attracted to her but didn't want to date her and hadn't done anything sexual with her. He has taken her out for dinner on her birthday. They also go out for Friday drinks often. I want him to have great relationships with colleagues/friends and I understand being attracted to someone else, but feel worried about the situation.

We agreed it would be good for us to all spend time together so I can get to know her/worry less.

He is going away on holiday for two months and has always implied that he doesn't want to commit until after travelling (and presumably having a bit of fun).

I guess my questions are:

1) Am I getting played?
2) Is it really just a matter of timing for this guy? Should I wait it out for him?
3) Do you have any experience with a similar situation? (either as a girl or a guy)

Thanks so much for reading!
Players, is it worth the wait or should I leave?
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