Is there a chance he’s interested in me?

[Anonymous]

I asked this before as a general question, but then thought I should have done it as a poll. Sorry if read and/or replied to the first one.

There is this guy at work who is apparently usually really confident and pretty flirty, but is always kind of awkward around me.

He barely looks me in the eye, but I’m nearly positive that I’ve seen him looking at me out of the corner of my eye.

He took several months to speak to me (other than saying ‘good morning’ once or twice) but is always friendly to me, and seems to stick around for a bit whenever he sees me.

He finally properly introduced himself to me the other day and looked me in the eye and said it was nice to meet me - doesn’t sound like much, I know, but this guy never looks me in the eye! Even if we are having a conversation!

Once he had finally introduced himself, he suddenly kept appearing for the rest of the day - when I don’t usually see him that often. It just seemed a bit too coincidental.

He did ask me what I was doing after work once, but I was busy, then when I asked him the same thing, he answered in a kind of awkward and overly casual way that he was free.

He told me about himself, his home town/state, his interests, and his friends in the first conversation - probably nothing, but I now know more about him and his background than several people on my own team.

I’ve definitely noticed him, but as I don’t really know him yet I wouldn’t go as far to say I like him. I guess I just want to know if he’s noticed me too. I’m great at reading guys when it is my friends they are/are not interested in, but am terrible when it comes to me.

Yes, sounds very promising

Maybe, could go either way

No, you’re overthinking this

Not enough data

[bigbluey]

Ok let’s see, it sounds like it could go either way BUT I have some ideas that might help you.

First you say he’s flirty. Then you say he is reluctant to look you in the eyes. Allow me to ask you a question: Does he do this with other girls?

Next you say he appeared a lot so there is not enough data to decide properly. You would need to say if he walked past more than necessary or if he kept appearing at your shoulder or in other words casually or clumsily.

Personally I think you may be thinking too far. If he asks you what you are doing after work then he may be making a friendly attempt to get to know you. I think you’re overthinking and he just wants to be friends.

[Asker]

I know am overthinking this. Haha. It’s just been so long that I’ve forgotten how to do any of thing guy stuff.

He definitely looks others in the eye, it appears to be just me he finds it difficult with.

I think because I don’t see him all that often, I don’t really have enough to go on yet so am getting all wrapped up in overthinking it. I feel like I’m in high school again! Haha

[Anonymous]

I do think it sounds promising, but I voted ‘could go either way’ because with most of this vague flirty stuff you really have to be there to get a feel for it. I’d say just get to know him a little better and see what signals he sends you. And try and see or find out how he is around other girls - you said he is flirty, but is it in the same way he seems to be with you?

[Anonymous]

He's being respectful of you & no we are not like the other jerks.
He's intimidated in a good way ,
no rush & no pressure