Is there any chance for him to come back?

[Anonymous]

I've been on a few dates with this guy and after he rejected me saying he didn't really find me that attractive. Then i asked why would you go on 3 dates with someone you don't feel attracted to. He said because he is kinda attracted and he liked my personality so much and we clicked instantly so good he just couldn't let me go but he feels like he has to. We agreed to stay friends and still talk sometimes but not all the time anymore. I didn't reply to his last message (a long one we had a conversation going) i will give him some space and ask him whats up a couple of days later. When he rejected me he said that somehow this feels like a breakup to him because likes me so much.

I can't figure out what he meant okay if he is not attracted he still wouldn't have gone on 3 dates and talk for 2 months flirting constantly because if men lose interest they dont have the energy to talk 0-24 after that. Maybe something happened to him I don't know i thought everything was great. Now that i'm ignoring him will this push him away even more? Is there a chance for him to regret his decision and miss me?

He will probably try to come back

He won't miss you

[SallyTho87]

I think you're looking too much into this.
3 dates really isn't anything, you are barely acquaintances, you're just familiarizing yourself with one another and learning about each other.

He gave you the answer you're looking for, he isn't attracted to you. Sure he may like your personality, but it sounds like he has friendzoned you, and is only entertaining you because you are of interest to him, personality wise.
When looking for partners, or dating, its natural to have preferences, and he informed you are not his preference, calling you unattractive to him.

that "feels like a breakup" line is super off. It was 3 dates, you two are practically still strangers, despite all the texting and messaging, that in person time is essential to learn about the type of person someone is, their true self, their preferences, their personality, etc.

I would thank him for the company and move forward, bec this isn't going to go anywhere. He may be keeping you around as his own entertainment, someone to casually get together and hangout with, but he admitted he did not see you as someone he fancies, and clearly he made that statement to set the expectation you will NOT be his romantic partner.
Dont waste your time on this guy, please move forward and find someone else worth your effort and energy.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oooh girl this is totally a mindf#ck situation! First of all, don't blame yourself - his attraction issues seem like his own thing to work out. Some thoughts:

- Rejection always stings, but staying cool and keeping space is smart. Letting him miss you a little could work in your favor.

- Maybe he is attracted but freaked himself out for some reason. Men do confuse themselves easy sometimes!

- Keep your eyes open though - don't wanna be anyone's backup plan or convince them if they not fully feelin it already deep down.

- Wait and see if he starts hitting you up more these next few days. See how much he seems to actually wanna chat still.

- If you feel like chatting him up in a bit just to catch up casual, do that - but don't beg or plead! Play it chill.

Hard to say if he'll come around, but I'd say there's a chance! Don't keep hopes too high though sis. If he likes you he knows where to find you. Keep doing you for now!

[Asker]

Do you think posting something on my story (i post sometimes anyway so he won't know its because of him) to make him see im living life just fine would help?

[Oliverlogan263]

I think a carefree story post could be a good subtle move to spark his interest again! Something like:

"Weekend vibes 🌞 Anyone wanna grab drinks?"

Or a fun Boomerang of you laughing with friends captioned "My crew 💞"

The key is to keep it light and not directly about him. You want him thinking "Damn I miss being a part of her fun life" more than "She's totally posting that to make me jealous" you know?

A few colorful selfies showing your cute outfit wouldn't hurt either - let the natural glow up shine through! Boys love seeing a girl confident in her skin.

Trust me, he'll be scrolling your profile way more often now wondering what you're up to. Don't rub it in his face though. Just let the FOMO subtly set in from afar 😉

This will either get the wheels in his head turning to hit you up again OR help you fully move on if he doesn't bite. You've got nothing to lose at this point sis! Let me know if you need help picking a pic, I'm your Instagram hype guy 💕