My ex and I dated for 3 years and broke up about 3 months ago. I decided to cut contact with him because for the last year of the relationship he decided that he didn't want to be in a commited relationship with me anymore. Although he didn't want the title anymore, he still wanted all the benefits that comes with a relationship Including exclusivity. I put up with it because I love the man, but eventually this 'no title thing' started doing damage to my mental health and I decided to end things.
Within the first 2 months of the breakup, I met another guy and we went on about 4 dates, but never ever came from it because I was still hung up over my ex. Also keep in mind that Nothing sexual happened.
On Christmas day I reached out to my ex to wish him a Merry Christmas and we started chatting again. He asked if he could see me and if we could talk things through, and I agreed. Since then we've been chatting regularly, and it felt like things were finally going in the right direction until tonight.
I called him to ask how his day was and he brought up the question of 'did you see anyone else in the time we weren't speaking?'. He really put me on the spot with this question, especially because I know he wanted the answer to be no. I decided to tell the truth and I told him about the guy I saw a few times. I also told him that nothing ever came from it, and that I'm not even on speaking terms with the guy anymore.
He got upset with me about this and said "I didn't want to believe you were that kind of person. I mean, I know we were going through a lot but I wouldn't have moved on so quickly, cause the relationship meant a lot to me".
I now feel very bad about this and I feel like I ruined any chance we could have had at getting back together. I would just really like to know, Am I in the wrong for meeting with someone else so soon?
Should I have lied to my ex about this? Is there a way for me to fix this? Any bit of advice will be greatly appreciated 🔥
Within the first 2 months of the breakup, I met another guy and we went on about 4 dates, but never ever came from it because I was still hung up over my ex. Also keep in mind that Nothing sexual happened.
On Christmas day I reached out to my ex to wish him a Merry Christmas and we started chatting again. He asked if he could see me and if we could talk things through, and I agreed. Since then we've been chatting regularly, and it felt like things were finally going in the right direction until tonight.
I called him to ask how his day was and he brought up the question of 'did you see anyone else in the time we weren't speaking?'. He really put me on the spot with this question, especially because I know he wanted the answer to be no. I decided to tell the truth and I told him about the guy I saw a few times. I also told him that nothing ever came from it, and that I'm not even on speaking terms with the guy anymore.
He got upset with me about this and said "I didn't want to believe you were that kind of person. I mean, I know we were going through a lot but I wouldn't have moved on so quickly, cause the relationship meant a lot to me".
I now feel very bad about this and I feel like I ruined any chance we could have had at getting back together. I would just really like to know, Am I in the wrong for meeting with someone else so soon?
Should I have lied to my ex about this? Is there a way for me to fix this? Any bit of advice will be greatly appreciated 🔥
