What exactly are you guilty of here? By your description, you never flirted, were never interested, and you only gave her a ride to help her out.
Your vague suspicions turned out to be right - she was interested. But you told her no, and stopped the advances.
I don't know if you should tell your wife or not - that's entirely up to you - but you do not have to feel guilty. Right?
If anyone saw, and asked, or gossiped, you could very easily put it to rest and say about the broken down car and it was just doing her a favour.
Not everyone needs to know everything. This girl is in the wrong, but no one else is. Why involve the authorities? If she continues to make advances and make problems working with you, then maybe yes, tell HR or a manager about it. It would be sexual harassment at that point. But workplaces are active and challenging places, and ideally the people involved handle it discreetly. If you tell your wife, she will likely feel hurt, mad, upset, and does she really need to know this, that there are women out there like this? Manage the situation. Handle it. In fact, you already have been firm. That should be the end of it.
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File harassment charges against her and get her in trouble with Human Resources because if you do this, you will send a strong message to your wife that you did not encourage her advances, if your a manager, you could say she was trying to get promoted without doing her job properly.
Tell your wife, I doubt anything bas will come of it. You didn't do anything wrong. You can even tell her that you learned to either ask or contact her before helping another woman.
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You should not be taking people of the opposite gender in your car without your spouses approval or knowledge. Did you tell your wife about the birthday thing at least? Best thing you can do is come clean now and hope for the best.
I don't understand why would you lose your wife. Because in the first place, you did not do anything wrong, you didn't cheat on her. You rejected your colleague's advances.
Do you mean your wife is so strict with you that if it was any other female colleagues or friends, you are not allowed to give them rides in your car?If it continues after you have turned down her advances repeatedly you need to high tail it to HR.
you didn't even do anything but drive her to her house and drop her off. chill out dude! jesus. yeah tell HR and tell your wife this chick is doing this. maybe even try to find a new job.
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