If a guy insinuates moving to the same state that I’m moving to, is there a chance that he likes me?

[Anonymous]

Long story very short: My coworker and I have hung out twice outside of work. The first time was in January but I had a boyfriend at the time. The second was last week (I’m now single). We’re both interested in each other but haven’t addressed it yet- we’ve only maintained a friendship and kept things professional but the feelings are definitely there.

I plan to move to Texas in the next few weeks and he mentioned looking into moving to the same place I am in his near future.

I’m now wondering if there’s a chance he wants to move because of me? What are your thoughts?

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Thanks so much for answering. 😊

[Guy13]

Wow, you are a special princess to someone for sure. Firstly, he has never made a physical move on you SO he respects your whole person.

Question: Have you hinted at this, hate to move now just getting to know you kind of things... IF you have the number one way to know that a guy likes you is to allow him to have influence over you.-Nor Influence is as simple as taking what you may say to heart. Secretly using your words and insight as part of his thinking and doing.

Here's what you need to do... IN the remaining time left get to know each other intimately WITHIN both comfort zone. I know you do not want him to move out there only to find No Pheromones... sexual energy, and really was nothing to it...

Make sense?

[Asker]

Yes it makes sense. Thanks for such an insightful answer. When we were hanging out last he vaguely mentioned wanting to wait until he got his coaching business up and running until he gets into a relationship. He then stated in the near future he wants to move to Texas as well (in the same city as me) to handle his business there. He stated “so don’t be surprised if I message you saying I’m here”.

We have gotten to know each other on a personal level. He opened up about some life challenges, insecurities, business plans, etc.

I have a feeling he likes me more than a friend even though he hasn’t said anything directly. I guess It’s just the fact that neither of us addressed us liking each other is the reason I ask this question. We keep things very professional between us

[Guy13]

You are very welcomed. It would be nice if he would lead but it does not seem he is crossing that line for fear of "losing" you. You may want to make an aggressive space move. I have done this... I took her hand and maneuvered the way I wanted which was a Fist shape. Held it up, turned it around a little bit and said, "wonder what gravity would do with this"... I said c'mon let's go see and we walked to Greek Fest. Right place right time thing...

Some kind of touch and look signifying okay... make me love you kind of thing is needed. Please don't rub his belly. ;-)

[Asker]

Don’t you think it’s too late to ‘close in the space’, so to speak? I leave to go to Texas on October 10th. I guess the reason I figure he might see me more than a friend because he mentioned moving to TX as well, when previously, that was never his plan prior to me mentioning that I was moving there.

[Guy13]

Oh shitte !!! All this is academic now. You might want to kiss etc. He moves out there for "I'm not feeling it... there's no vibe between us". I wouldn't want to be there...

[Asker]

Kiss? Lol

[Asker]

I’m not sure if I follow

[Guy13]

This whole conversation is almost in Past Tense. Did not realize you were flying out in 7 days. "Don't come to Texas for me." That is the only truthful and safe option I see available. "If I was dating another, would your Business be so good that you would still move out here."

[Asker]

Well. I’m not 100% sure that he is coming for me, but it feels that way. I guess only time will tell.

[Guy13]

👍👍. Good luck in your move and future endeavors

[Wise4myage]

Yes I’d say their is a good chance.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer. 🙂

[Wise4myage]

Sure, your welcome.😊