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I have a medium somewhat curvy build. My body fat is around 22 or 23%. My measurements are 36.5 bust, 25-26 inch waist and 36.5 hips (93/65-66/93 in centimetres).

The problem is that I feel fat no matter what. I've lost a decent amount of weight 8 kg (that's around 17-18lbs) and I'm wondering whether that is enough of if I should try and lose more. I don't think I'll ever feel confident about my body no matter how much I change though.

What always brings this problem up is when I see other girls especially taken girls. I am single and I've always thought my looks, especially my weight is the problem. Every girl who had a boyfriend on her arm that I saw today (I was out shopping and getting a covid vaccine) are skinny, so I believe there is a connection.

I have started working at this restaurant for almost about a year and recently I met this wonderful guy that I found out worked seasonally because of his schooling at Indiana University. Do keep in mind that I am the shy, quiet, and introverted person. He started talking to me the first day I met him. He is a friendly guy and I am honestly surprised by how much I actually opened up to him within the expand of a couple of months. I felt like he and I became really good friends on the spot. We tell each other stories, jokes, work related stuff, and have really good conversations for the most part. Now eavesdropping on a coworker talking to my crush I found out about his girlfriend. This felt like a stab in the chest because he and I get along so well and I was starting to think that it was eventually going to blossom into something more than friendship eventually. He never once mentioned his girlfriend to me no matter what we talked about at work, and I can never understand why. The other day he stopped by at my work on his day off with some of his friends including his girlfriend, I casually said hi to him and talked with him a little bit before he went to go sit down with his friends and girlfriend he told me that he was hanging out with some friends and never mentioned his girlfriend. Maybe I am over thinking things but I can’t tell if he is just being friendly or if he is just secretly attracted to me in some way. Whenever I would say hi to him his face lights up, he would look me in my eyes for a long period of time whenever I talk to him, he is always smiling at me, he complimented how smart I was the other day, he is either making me smile or laugh, he is always saying hi and bye to me before and after work, and sometimes I would feel like he would act nervous around me or avoid me even though he and I are good friends. Why would he act this way even when he has a girlfriend? Is it attraction? Is he just being friendly and I am overthinking? Please help.

I'm not asking if you think workplace relationships are appropriate. I'm only at that location for the summer anyway but this dude never says anything bad about me but I'm the coworker he talks to the least & when we talk he normally just talks about himself. He sometimes stares at me & if I look he'll look away. 1 time someone was asking about me & he said" why are you looking for her? I can do it." It's no secret I'm more liked but I talk to everybody & he only talks to the same 4 girls. We work at a 4 level school & he's only ever on the 1st & 2nd floors while I patrol the rest (we're security.) I've asked before if he has social media (knowing the answer) & he lied & said no even when I see him use them. I was telling him about my favorite YouTuber & I brought up that I can't send any links to him because I don't have his number so he gave it to me & said "I can give it to you for work." He used to say good morning when I would walk in but now he won't say anything unless I say it 1st ( this happened on Monday. Friday was when I got the number & I only sent the links with his permission & Monday was the same day he got offended by someone asking about me.) That day he really treated me like a pariah & he still kind of does but not as bad. He still says "have a wonderful night" & I showed him pictures of my kid (got brought up) & he said "cute" & "baby laughs are the best" He wouldn't mind dating a girl with kids but I don't know if that matters. He was in a bad relationship where he got slapped & I said "if it's any consolation I was in a abusive relationship." He said "no 1 should have to go through that. People don't understand that men can be in abusive relationships too." I don't know why he brought that up but he doesn't get staff emails & I don't either so I brought up that we're both misfits & he agreed. We don't disagree about anything.