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1) Able to be yourself? Do you feel like you have to put on a front with your SO? Also, how nervous are you when your guard drops? Lots of abused women report having to be “on guard” 24/7 in what they say, or act or even wear. Are you always exhausted with your SO? That may be a sign.
2) Do you laugh? Like most conversations, are you laughing with each other? You don’t have to be a comedian. We laugh and have fun talking about reality shows are whatever. But unhealthy SO’s don’t laugh as much. And unhealthy mates HATE laughing at themselves.
3) Do you fight? It’s ok to. I see it more as venting, as well as fixing the relationship. But how bad the fights get is key too. Also, how fast can you makeup?
4) Do they trust you? Are they going through your phone? Always scrolling through social media, sensitive to minor flirtations from others? Do they try to control your schedule? That’s them being insecure about themselves. And is abusive.

These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women
. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind, this could be worth a read:

1. Long (fake) nails
2. Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored)
3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
4. Big earrings
5. Provocative clothing
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content)
7. Questionable.. questions (e. g. "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
8. Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places)
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or Using sex as a proxy for feeling loved and adored
11. S. I. G. N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism
13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e. g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" )
14. Materialistic
15. Their actions don't follow their words
16. No sense of boundaries
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things
20. Habit of lying as it could escalate over time
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'
23. Shit Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.”
24. Ultimatums
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure (s).*The issue is many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships.
27. They're often passive aggressive