My friends think I’m in an abusive relationship and it’s frustrating me?

[Anonymous]

Two of my single friends who don’t have a lot of relationship experience talk badly about my boyfriend and our relationship and I’m getting tired of it.

My boyfriend and I went through a rough patch where we were having unhealthy disagreements. We went to therapy to learn how to improve our communication and our relationship has been stronger than ever.

I have other friends who have been through rough patches in their relationship too and know that things aren’t always perfect or peachy. They are more understanding of my situation but my single friends have a negative outlook.

My boyfriend and I plan to get engaged this year so a wedding is on my mind often. I don’t want my friends there who think negatively of my relationship or my boyfriend.

[Firegirl258]

doesn't really seem like a question lol, but I'd say dump those friends. I had people similar in my life who constantly told me my boyfriend was abusive just because he frustrates me sometimes. I realized they were just toxic people overall and after i cut them out I was a lot happier.

[Truthatanycost]

The better question is why are you keeping friends around that are negative? that is just as unhealthy as the previous behavior you just described. If you have both truly learned and addressed the previous unhealthy relationship, then there is nothing to worry about. Unless those friends are seeing something you don't want to see and are in fact correct. If you are certain they are wrong, then there is no reason to continue being around them.

[Anonymous]

Are your friends in the relationship with your boyfriend? No? Then F*** them!
You're a big girl and you can make choices on your own.