Is this emotional abuse and control?

Anonymous
I have been in what I’m learning to believe is an emotionally abusive relationship for some years. Usually when my partner is under the influence of drugs or alcohol he becomes verbally horrible to me. He’s said many things like, called me a cunt, threatened to smash my
Phone up, said that he doesn’t even like me, also things like if i don’t give him the money that he wants he’s going to throw all my clothes out when i am at work (bearing in mind im the only one who works) if we have had a falling out or argument or things aren’t going his way some times I would wake up and he would of disappeared (usually with his sister who abuses drugs also) one morning recently I was concerned as he had disappeared and one of my friends seen him that morning and he was with his sister he told me friend not to tell me
That she had seen me (but she did as I was anxious and worried) my feelings are somewhat as though he takes pleasure in seeing me suffer. I have many voice recordings of what I believe is abuse. So anyways during the summer after he had kicked me and my two young children out again after pushing me continuously upstairs to the point the police were called we had to sofa surf again. I began speaking with a really make guy and he asked me if I wanted to go for a walk with him, so I went, anyways we have been friends since and. he's been a continuous support to me. I am waiting for me and the children to get a house that’s just for me and the kids as I can’t continue living my life this way and often been thrown out beggars of my partners drug abuse. I don’t think my partner likes the idea of this and has been crying and saying he can’t go one etc and other things which is all playing with my emotions etc. does anyone have any input on this please or is this another form of him trying to control me. And does it make me a bad person for sparking a close friendship with another guy in the midst of all of this?
Is this emotional abuse and control?
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