Do you find it toxic or a big red flag if your boyfriend/girlfriend blocks you after an argument?

[Crystal28]

I think this is the first sign of emotional abuse and that person wanting everything on their terms and to have control over the relationship.

[Ariagames]

I have a boyfriend for 20 years and have 3 beatifull children but latley I've come to want diffrent things in life and my eyes opend i realized im in a verry tocic relationship so because he's so posessive he always asks me with who im chatting to "basically always playing policeman"so i couldnt take it so i blocked him its been a week now we stil have huge fights but im tired now he thinks im having an affair and said hell show me what wil happens when he catches me im so scared of him sometimes so basically if you block them for good reason go for it

[Crystal28]

I completely agree, but that’s exactly what I mean. When you have to keep blocking someone that you’re with instead of communicating with them that means it’s a toxic relationship. If I really loved someone I couldn’t imagine just blocking them like that. In your situation It’s different because he’s threatening you and accusing you of cheating. I agree that anyone who is being threatened etc SHOULD block that person. But as I’ve said, if you even need to consider blocking that person, it’s toxic.

[GraveDoll]

blocking me is the worst thing he could do to me

because they would NEVER hear form me again. that just so childish and disrespectful.

[Crystal28]

Exactly!!! I don’t understand what some females don’t get. It’s SO fucking disrespectful. And I know women who will be blocked for a few DAYS before she hears from him again, like what?

[GraveDoll]

it really wrong like i can't deal with that shit. because it like are 12 or what? since you want to be 12 than find someone who likes games.

it one thing i will never forget or forgive. I would never block anyone just because I', m mad. we all get mad but it how you go about it that counts and blocking to me is like you just... died and no longer exist to me.

[Crystal28]

Exactly!! After a breakup or something I get it, you don’t wanna see that person. But if you guys are together and your boyfriend or girlfriend can’t handle an argument and to resolve things peacefully and resorts to blocking you for days on end, then that’s an immature child who wants control. I could never have a future with someone like that.

[GraveDoll]

You are so right about the control thing. It really is now that i think about it.

[Crystal28]

It’s a person who will never take their significant other seriously

[LEADFOOTboi]

yes... blocking means y'all ain't gonna talk nothin till that one person is ready... no peace offers can even be entertained at that point... relationships go both ways... one person can't be in control, or the other person is simply a pet, however disposable... and who knows how long they gonna keeep you blocct for...

[bklynbadboy1]

Yes that's a major red flag for me cause it show immaturity like there not capable of sitting down and talk and working through things together as adults. I'd definitely reevaluate if I see myself having a future with that person. Good question

[Crystal28]

Exactly! I agree

[bklynbadboy1]

Your a smart girl! Good question I really liked this one...😉

[bklynbadboy1]

Thanks for the MHO

[Stephbs2]

Well it does depend... Is the person breaking up? Or it could be because they need sometime and the other is not giving the space needed. I wouldn't do it myself but I can understand it

[Crystal28]

If it’s breaking up that’s different. And no I mean like every time you argue, they go and block you to shut you up.

[Stephbs2]

Okay than he is just a kid. Have you talked to him about this?

[Nahid1707]

Yes it can be. Toxic and unhealthy relationships aren’t talked about often !
It’s so important people are aware of red flags and what are signs to look out for in others.

[Crystal28]

And apparently a lot of females don’t see blocking during an argument constantly as a red flag. I removed one girls comment because she said she doesn’t find that to be toxic and to relax when I replied to her. Being shut out, not letting the other person talk and using the blocking method to maintain control in the relationship is absolutely toxic and the person being blocked will one day be sick of it.

[Nahid1707]

Yea i agree with you.

i hope you find a guy who treats you respectfully and have a good fun healthy respectful relationship!

[Mossberg500]

Sounds quite childish. But my sister is 20 and she lives with my 30 year old sister, so I think it is true what they say, people grow up much later mentally and emotionally than they ever used to in all of history.

[BlessedDaddy]

It's toxic that this passive aggressive behaviour has become an issue. Huge red flag.

[Drumlin2001]

It's rather immature. I'd expect to be able to resolve issues in a more constructive way.

[Arjunaguy]

Yes I feel they are being childish and would reconsider the relationship with them

[Anonymous]

It is very immature too. If you want to avoid trauma, just leave him. People who block, they never good for a relationship.

[Steph06]

Yes, it's the sign of a red flag already because if a person really loves u, he/she won't gonna make some things that might gonna make u hurt. And also that kind of attitude is like a immature one.

[Liam_Hayden]

If she blocks me she is then my ex and I don't care what she does.

[In_Trance]

I'd find an action like that to be relationship ending

[JamesBlackDragon]

No but I'm sure some people would I find it childish

[Truthatanycost]

The first sign of toxicity is the argument...

[Crystal28]

I agree. While arguing sometimes is normal, what matters is what you’re arguing about and how it’s handled

[Anonymous]

I think it depends. If the person who is being blocked is sending nasty or threatening messages it’s fine to block them.

[Thatsamazing]

Yep. Break up with them.

[mynameisRIS]

Immature

[GreenGold1992]

yeah

[Petermorgan34]

Without a doubt

[BillysBabe]

childish