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This depends on the ex.

There are a 1-2 where I would gladly lead on and burn them preemptively. Reason being is what they did to me has never been done to them before. They actually need a painful lesson to see what their shitty decisions can do to people.

For example I had one ex completely ghost me after 9 months of dating after a minor argument. If she had experienced that herself (doubt she ever has) she would think twice about doing it to someone else. I however just never ghosted anybody out of simple principles. I always gave someone closure no matter how uncomfortable it was. But some people unfortunately just don’t have respect and common sense and need the school of hard knocks.

However I would just ignore others and avoid dating them. There is one girl I would have done a better job with communicating/responding with before she made a horrible decision (99.99% sure she cheated). That one could do turned out differently. But I would definitely kept my guard up.

I like to think a girlfriend is temporary even if I have permanent intentions. As men we never know the girls intentions and whether they are subject to change. Today's forever can mean the end of it X time later.

What's the point of not considering a girlfriend to be yours truly forever and ever? No surprises and setbacks. There is a reason I intend to listen to LMFAO Party Rock Athem, not Juice WRLD all girls are the same.

Can't tell them about it. They will be upset I guarantee it. They won't understand, that as men we are on our own ⚠ and therefore it serves as a protective mechanism. These are some of the darker things some men are actively not telling women.

There is a saying "She's not really yours. It's just your turn now".

Story Time: One time I used to have a "girlfriend", who claimed I was hers and all that mushy stuff about being together. But then she ghosted me completely and most likely cheated on me too. Eventually I got over it 100% but the price of such surprises is too high for me to risk once more. It's been 5 years.

Never again. I can't. Simple as that.

Are you the type to like to people please?

Here are some signs that you might be a people pleaser if you aren't sure:

Agreeing with whoever is in front of you. Many of us learn how to politely listen to others as part of our social skills. That can veer into people-pleasing behavior if you constantly agree with people because you want to earn their admiration and not because you believe what you’re saying.

Apologizing for things that aren’t your fault. People pleasers often make themselves responsible for the emotional responses of others. If someone feels bad, you may blame yourself or fear that person thinks you’re the problem. It’s good to say you’re sorry if you’ve hurt someone, but there may be a deeper issue if you’re frequently apologizing for things you have no control over.

Not being able to say no. If you find it difficult to tell others no when they ask you for something, you may be a people pleaser. Many people pleasers prefer making up excuses later to get out of a commitment instead of saying no from the start. If you do follow through, you can regret not having the strength to stand up for yourself.

Changing your personality depending on who’s around you. People pleasers tend to shift their behavior and attitude to match that of the person or group. That can lead to you acting in ways that are out of character or participating in actions you disagree with just to fit in socially. People pleasers tend to do anything possible to avoid conflict, even if it means turning into an entirely different person.

Your worth depends on how others see you. People pleasers need validation from others to feel good about themselves. They can go to extremes to earn words of praise from others. The confidence of a people pleaser rises and falls based on how others perceive them.

Does any of this resonate with you? feels like things you do?