How do you stop yourself from falling for a player?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend and I love him but not really romantically just as a friend but he's a massive flirt with everyone and abit of retired player.

He has a girlfriend and has told me he wants to marry her soon but I'm already seeing the red flags in there relationship even if they've been together for 4 years.

She doesn't trust him because of his past. He's never cheated just had a lot of girlfriends and is a massive flirt.

He's very open about how he feels about me and that's another red flag I see in his relationship. He's amitted but he finds me attractive and wants to sleep with me but he does it in this way but it's so smooth and classy when he tells me this and it's almost like he's making me think o want to sleep with him to.

He has kinda tried it on with me once when went out together. He's away finding ways to touch me.

He makes me laugh so much but I also feel like I can talk to him about anything. He might be a player but that doesn't make him a bad person who isn't capable of being loved.

We are so different but so similar. I'm very well off, clean and right wing and he's messy, poor and a massive lefty but we find ourselves agreeing on a lot of things and having similar values.

I feel bad for his girlfriend but she isn't prefect herself not that's a excuse.

I know I should forget about him and avoid him but he makes me feel so happy.

I went to a concert with him and we had such a good time. I was a little cold and he held my hand and said how cold I was and then gave me a hug to keep me warm. I laughed and said "you don't have to do that" and then he kissed me. We kinda got lost in the moment so I kissed him back but then on the way back I started to cry because I felt horrible because of his girlfriend and I knew that kiss probably meant nothing to him and he's just going back to his old ways.

I can't stay mad at him that's the thing I hate most. I feel like I'm in love but I don't want to be

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel conflicted about your feelings towards your friend. However, it's important to remember that getting involved with someone who has a history of being a player can be risky and potentially hurtful.

Here are some tips to help you stop yourself from falling for a player:

1. Be honest with yourself: Acknowledge your feelings and be honest with yourself about the risks and potential consequences of getting involved with someone who has a history of being a player.

2. Set boundaries: It's important to set clear boundaries and stick to them. Don't allow yourself to be put in situations that make you uncomfortable or compromise your values.

3. Don't ignore red flags: If you notice red flags in your friend's behavior or relationship, don't ignore them. Address them openly and honestly with your friend, and be prepared to walk away if necessary.

4. Focus on yourself: Instead of focusing on your friend, focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Spend time with friends and family, pursue hobbies and interests, and prioritize your own well-being.

5. Consider seeking professional help: If you're struggling to manage your feelings or find yourself repeatedly getting involved with players, consider seeking the help of a therapist or relationship coach.

Remember, you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you. Don't settle for anything less.

[Anonymous]

The bad boys are what you are attracted too. The nice guys won't bother you that way the men you want will only approach. It's a good thing.

[Asker]

I'm not a bad person he kissed me and I felt terrible afterwards. I've never done anything like this before but I can't help how I feel.

I feel like a stupid idoit for liking him but he also makes me feel like no other man has ever. He makes me feel beautiful and desired. He told me he can't control himself around me any longer and it drove me crazy I know he says he can't control himself because he's a player not because of me but it's a thrill to me. I've never just have a man be passionate or romantic with me. I guess it's just a massive thrill of having the chase

[Opinion Owner]

Well I think you are both about the same like you view sex as a casual thing. Which that is mistake number 1. Sex is something you do with someone you love to have a child; there's nothing casual about it. He is dumb for thinking it is.

And you just don't know how to change his mind about you and what you guys are doing. You have to show him that he isn't a player and a man can't be a player. make him feel like his days of being a player are over. Make him feel like he will regret it if he tries to throw out an investment with you.

[Anonymous]

Distance yourself from him. He’s in a relationship and it’s like you’re waiting for it to crumble apart or something so you can have your chance and that’s wrong. On top of that, why do you want a man who only finds you attractive for sex but not as a partner? Don’t you think it would be you he’s in a relationship and wants to marry? You are not the one, so maybe you should stop hanging around kissing other women’s men and calling it friendship. Karma will kick your ass one day for things like that.

[Softlife808]

You're 25-29 Years old. Grow up