There's two types of men in the world, just as how there's two types of women.
Some people - seems an increasing rarity - are raised properly in decent respectable households where they had good parents and learnt how to successfully contribute not just to society but to relationships either with women, friends, etc.
Other people - seems an increasing normality in some countries - were raised in broken households where bluntly the parent or parents weren't a good influence. Either the parent was abusive, drunkard, drug addict, cheater, into cheap easy sex, etc. These people learn that it is easier to blame others for their failure in society & relationships because that is literally what they learnt to do from their parents.
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Now that that's out of the way.
I see a lot of you gals - or as I'd say if you were in Scotland where I'm from lassies or mnathan (Scots) - blaming men for using you, only wanting cheap sex, etc.
These are not all men.
These are the men who fall into the 2nd category. The ones raised in lousy households with poorly parents and who think such conduct is acceptable.
My advice for women who encounter such men is simple
- Increase your standards.
- Unless you're into cheap sex stop going to bars & clubs expecting a serious relation.
- Unless you're into cheap sex stop advertising yourself for cheap sex by dressing revealingly - now girls I'm not telling you you can't but by & large revealingly = cheap sex in society. It's why actual prostitutes don't dress like businesswomen.
- Stop falling for "pretty lines" and cliche nonsense.
- Most certainly don't have sex early into ANY relationship. Honestly if anyone can get something for free, they're not going to put in effort.
A man who is respectable won't pressure you, won't leave you, etc. if you say let's have sex on the 5 or 6th date.
Men who are not respectable or decent will because like their parents they have very little to offer.
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Agree. Women need to understand that some guys will SAY anything to get sex and go from there. His words won't matter, and ONLY if/when he commits to you can you sleep with him. And if any guy runs away because you hold that standard, you're better off. It's the right test. It's the test that protects your heart, prevents being let down/devasted by lies and casual sex that you never wanted. A person cannot disrespect you unless you allow it.
There's a guy I'm totally attracted to, but still, I know that if I rushed it, it'd be the biggest mistake.
Exactly.
Unfortunately I think a lot of younger girls don't really understand this because
a) they may have come from broken households where mum kept a new man every year or so
b) low self esteem issues, etc. and these men prey upon it but when dumped just gets worse
c) poor role models - instead of honoring women who are business owners or doctors or scientists you have people like Kim Kardashian who got somewhere by being as cheap as possible constantly in front of youths
But as you said if a guy can't respect a woman's standards she is far far better off.
There ya go. We knew growing up that you might talk to a guy, date a guy, but you didn't go 'all in' until you were married/engaged - and even 20 years ago this was considered way too old-fashioned. Point being, at least we were taught the right standard. Young people tend to want to fit in with the crowd, and I did make a few mistakes, but I have learned.
"A man who is respectable won't pressure you, won't leave you, etc. if you say let's have sex on the 5 or 6th date."
Lmao oh how standards have fallen so far as for Pepto think that waiting for a whole 6 dates before having sex is at all virtuous. Just shows what a truly whorish world this has become.
Other than that, though, I agreed. If women would raise their standards and require men to be virgins before they entertain the idea of dating them, 90% of relationship problems would be fixed. And same for men, who have their fair share of screwed up whiners for the same reasons.
So true