I'm constantly working on my communication skills and trying to present myself in the best light but getting a woman to meet up for a date often feels futile especially on dating apps. It's hard to form a connection with someone via words on a screen and calling within the first few messages feels too forward. Getting a date feels like it shouldn't be this difficult so I'm taking an indefinite break to save my self-esteem.
In my age group, "good intentions" usually are limited to getting into the pants after the 1st. date or, in exceptional cases on the 2nd. if the first one fails. If that does not materialize, there will be no subsequent date. Is that correct or am I right?
I am a bit of an exception here because, I am not interested in dating and therefore, I am more or less obliged to reject anyone that approaches me with that purpose. I am sure that there are a lot of good guys that are willing to oversee the fornication for a while but let's be honest. Copulating is basically what it all boils down to.
I did feel guilty in the beginning when I was approached and when I simply said "not interested", those men usually kept insisting because they could not take a "no" for an answer. That led me to put them all in the same basket and not to tailor my reply to each individual.
I personally believe that those dating apps are the gangrene of relationships of the 21st. century. Nobody wants to invest in meeting in person on a face to face basis because of the potential dangers that are involved; potential dangers for men to be seen as perverts and harassers.
That is the direct consequence of our sick society where sex is the predominant factor in meeting with another person. Those conditions did not exist in the days of our grandparents because they tended to respect the opposite gender.
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Ignoring as in? Are they ignoring your messages through the dating apps? I never have done online dating. I never had the desire for the reasons you mention. It is very difficult to form a meaningful connection online. It is awkward and rarely works.
I had some friends that tried online dating. It was never good stories from what they shared with me. So, I met my spouse the old fashion way, by luck and chance. Sure, that is not going to work for everyone, but organic conversation and face to face is much better.
Try looking in your local area for activity groups or clubs that are of interest of you. A lot of times those are free or at the very least inexpensive. You will get a chance to meet some people with similar interests. It is much easier to make an initial connection when you are doing something you enjoy with other people have have that same interest.
As far as ignoring? I do not ignore people. I am married, so I would ignore advances now, but I also won't be on any dating sites. If single, I would not flat out ignore someone but just politely decline.
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Nah. And usually i don't because idgaf. Whatever that man's intention is I don't think I wanna be involved in. Especially when if it's not about getting in my pants, it's about seeing if I'm in another sexual activity. God help them if they wanna "experiment" to see if I'm shy, because i'm not, I'm just asexual.
God, I'm tired...
I suggest taking things slow af.
You're not the person who has game which is cool and I respect that. What I need you to know is that it's very much okay to "date" but keep it casual and friendly. Just hang out but casually or meeting up and hanging out and doing activities. Fun. Interview dates should happen the 2nd date or 3rd or what have you
I don't feel bad or good. I'm not obliged to have any intentions even though some guy has good ones.
tbh there are SO many men approaching us all the time there's just not time to pay attention to them all, so our default is ignore and avoid.
I never feel bad. You have to ignore some men for all kinds of reasons.
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