Got me!! They all CLAIM they want a guy liked me but they go after complete assholes ALL THE TIME!!! Then they come cry on MY shoulder and ask for advice. I'll say, "LEAVE HIM!!" They say, "I can't!" I ask, "Why not?" They say, "Because I LOVE him!!!" Well, I guess you'll just have to get used to being beaten up every day from now on, then!
My mother always said, "If a guy EVER hits me, he BETTER make it count because he'll NEVER get a second chance!!"
And you CAN'T just say, "Because THEY pick US!!" Because that's BULLSHIT!!! You have NO PROBLEM saying no to nice guys like me!! WHY can't you say it to an asshole? And there's been plenty of times where I've pointed out an abusive nature about a guy a girl was dating and she COMPLETELY ignored my advice to stay away from him!!! All I can say at that point is, "On your own head be it!"
One of my guitarists got a steady girlfriend, 3 of them over the course of his tenure in the band, one of which he married and then divorced a year or so later! Each one caught him fucking other girls behind their back time and time again and each one kept taking him back!! Eventually, we got a bass player whose girlfriend SEEMED to have a good head on her shoulders and she KNEW that Jason was like that with women!! Eventually, SHE ended up with him!!! My g/f & I were absolutely STUNNED that she, of ALL people, would end up with him!!!
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This is another one I totally get. Women (esp. early on) have a fatal attraction for abusive men, because confidence scrambles their defenses. Many younger women can't tell apart confidence from being a jerk and so they go for the jerks. Sadly, some women never learn, and those are the ones who end up abused, cheated on, and dead. Most of these women have nothing inside them character-wise that would say, "Hey, think twice", so they never see anything beyond the confidence/strength.
You're right to not feel sorry for this chick. She's dating and hopefully learning, but all her choices suck. Avoid her (and the ones like her) like the plague.
They usually don’t show their bad sides at first. It’s usually not until she’s already in love with him that she learns his true colors and then a) she’s already in love and b) she’s so confused how this good guy (they’re often really good at being charming and to pretend to be good guys for the girl they’re persuing) turned so bad all of a sudden and sometimes think SHE is the one who must how done something wrong to make him do these bad stuff or she buys into his excuses of how he’s so stressed, feeling depressed or whatever and that’s why he’s been behaving badly recently. To her it makes sense because she’s seen his good sides and believe that’s who he really is, when that’s not really the case.
Then there are some girls who are just attracted the carefree, confident, ”I don’t give a f about anything or anyone” attitude that some guys who are obviously bad already from the start have. Often these girls have some sort of mental issue or depression, had a troubled childhood, bad self esteem or something along these lines.
It's the same reason why nice guys go after shallow bitches, it's exciting. And then those nice guys complain that girls are shallow and money hungry, and the nice girls complain that all guys are dicks. Overall both genders should stop running after the "bad" yet exciting people.
Maybe it had to do with our primal instincts. The flashy strong confident guy tends to draw more attention.
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Many girls feel pressured into living a relatively obedient, clean cut, moral life, and, although girls claim to mature faster than boys, this is an area where that doesn't happen. When girls become aware of their sexuality and their power over guys, they see it as an opportunity to rebel and do all of the things that they never did because they were afraid. So they find a guy who is "dangerous" because they think it will make their life exciting and fulfilled. After a few years of being neglected or even abused, many of them finally mature, set aside their rebelliousness, and start looking for a guy who would be a good husband and good father.
Be patient and girls will get better. It's a matter of perceived dominance, in my view. Women flock to confident, independent men, because that determined survival in the past. Also, variable ratio reinforcement dictates that it is quite addicting.
This question you ducks keep asking is really annoying
I always assumed that it was because the women want to believe that they are the one who can make the jerk see the error in his ways.
"Bad guys" are honest in their feelings. Nice guys are mostly liars.
They go after us.
cause their hotter obv
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