Why do women like to do things that turn men off then claim men are the bad guys for it?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

not sure if it was from all the animes and cartoons I used to watch when I was a kid but I remember when I was a kid I always wanted to dye my hair blue because I thought I would look cool. it wasn't until I sprayed my hair blue ones in 6th grade and everyone thought I was a weirdo that i suddenly got to taste the bitter side of reality.

anyways today I see grown women dying their hair with crazy ass colors and me along with many other men find this really repulsing yet for some odd reason we are the bad guys for having these views. we get called...

Ignorant

Sexist

Oppressors

and the list goes on when all we are simply doing is having standards.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Every single example of them doing this is attached to an attention seeker that can't obtain the same amount of attention they now get without being the unhinged looking and in behavior.

A woman is nothing more than an attention seeker first and foremost... it's how they get what they want and it's what really makes them happy. Just like the ones that claim they don't want attention but then are all over social media seeking it out.

Women are not complicated, their motives are just retarded by the standards set for us as males, so that makes it hard to understand for most of us.

... and yes, we seek attention too. But we usually don't make our eyebrows unattractive or wear clown makeup to do it. We build a thing, achieve a task, get good at a skill, and make ourselves standout in ways that can't just be painted on like makeup or put on like an outfit. It's a subtle but huge difference between the sexes.

[Dongie]

It's the inferior 🐓💩 gene that becomes inflamed in some female humans.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

otfrl!

[Sevenpointfive]

isn't that the truth lol.

she says to her husband, "i was fucking my whole police squad because you weren't paying attention to me". edit: they took advantage of me being mentally ill and i'm the only woman and my husband was still not paying attention to me. edit: disgraced slut wins millions (undisclosed settlement) but loses an ENTIRE HALF A YEAR of her life that she dedicated to learning the law to protect YOU? so much wrong with this one lol

[Apple1996]

You realize women aren't alive just to look good for men? I currently have pink hair and I love it! If men dont like it they can keep their thoughts about it to themselves.

[Apple1996]

Also men often times say they hate something about women yet it'll be the one thing they acutally go crazy for. They scream and cry about not like girls with lip filler or a nose ring yet be drooling at women on porn/insta who have lip filler. Will have a girlfriend but then cheat on her or be fantasizing about a girl with a nose ring

[Filthy_Immigrant]

then this question doesn't pertain to you. I'm talking about women who demand that men accept them like if men are not allowed to have standards

[Apple1996]

Men can have standards but the problem is they are so loud about them. Like I said the screaming and cry lol

[Filthy_Immigrant]

Women are loud about theirs even when it’s far from reality so I don’t see why we are the bad guys

[Apple1996]

Most women dont have standards. They're like I just want a guy who won't beat me and has a job

[Filthy_Immigrant]

isn't wanting someone to work a standard?

unfortunately not all the ones that say that actually mean it. they start there then they want to upgrade overnight

[Apple1996]

Its a bare minimum standard. Grown men should be working. Not even something that should have to be said

[Filthy_Immigrant]

everyone has to work if they want to survive. but you'll be surprise how many women will reject a man who still works just because he doesn't make 6 figures

[Apple1996]

That's on the man. He should only go after women who are within his price range

[Filthy_Immigrant]

you're talking like we have control over that.

dude there are women out there who are Toyotas demanding the price of Ferraris

[Apple1996]

I don't know most women look their price. Maybe its just easier for me as a woman to look at another woman and guess that by her hair, nails, clothes, bags, her general vibe

[Apple1996]

Like if a woman has her hair blown out. It's pretty likely she's looking for a rich man. I get most guys dont understand what a blow out is tho

[Filthy_Immigrant]

"hair, nails, clothes, bags, her general vibe"

are useless, those things can be bought. we men value real beauty, the ones that are achieved without makeup and other superficial nonsense. therefore a woman who looks like the penguin from Batman should not be demanding a man who is 10/10

[Apple1996]

Yeah right 😂😂 if that were true then millions of men wouldn't be drooling over fake women on pornhub and Instagram lol y'all ignore average women and lust after baddies

[Filthy_Immigrant]

no, we JERKOFF to baddies in Pornhub but that doesn't mean we love them. just because they are good to jerkoff to does not mean we are not aware of the consequences they might bring to us in the world of dating.

[Apple1996]

Sure but thats who men give their attention to so women are gonna try to look like that

[Filthy_Immigrant]

at the end of the day we men know who deserves our attention or not. we can tell which women are good for a relationship vs the ones who are just pump and dump.

the problem is that a lot of women are pump and dump material nowadays so they are all falling in distress

[Apple1996]

Getting the lustful attention is better than getting the relationship attention lol y'all men don't seem to understand that

[Dongie]

Why did God make them so goodlookin' and men so hot for them?

[Apple1996]

@Dongie women are good looking so you might be right

[Dongie]

Thank you.

[LazerBean]

I mean, we call y'all entitled, fatherless snowflakes so we conservatives don't really care if y'all call us ignorant oppressed or whatever.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

oh how cute, claiming that you dont care yet here you are contradicting yourself by posting your two cents.

I also like to point out that hrowing personal insults while claiming to be above it all is even more cuter. If you were as grounded as you claim, you wouldn’t be spending your time attacking men online—especially those who actually have standards.

lastly being a conservative doesn’t mean you’re right. It just means you’ve chosen a label. and your mask slips every time.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Just because you don't find something attractive doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way ☺️ hope this helps.

[Dongie]

You could help a lot, actually. You look like a goodlookin' woman.
I hope this doesn't offend thee. I'll not inflict myself on you any further.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

I wasn’t talking about what I find attractive. I was pointing out how certain behaviors objectively turn many men off, yet those same women often act surprised or outraged when men respond accordingly. That’s a disconnect worth examining

[Razp_Sorbet]

I think it's pretty normal to be shocked and in disbelief that men would express disgust over a woman just living her best life 🙂

[Filthy_Immigrant]

If a man’s standards make you ‘shocked,’ maybe it’s time to examine how disconnected modern dating has become. Actions have consequences—even when wrapped in ‘living your best life.’ Men are just learning to say no.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Again... What you find attractive/ your "standards" aren't the same as everyone elses. My fiance loves when I have colours in my hair infact he has asked me to do specific colours.

I'm not sure what situations you're imagining or have maybe seen where women are shocked by men not being attracted to their hair colour. Like is the man going out of his way to let a girl know this? Is he saying it in a condescending manner?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

You’re missing the bigger point. This isn’t about what one man likes or whether someone colors their hair. It’s about a pattern—where women engage in behaviors that turn off a significant number of men, then act surprised or offended when men respond accordingly. That’s not an attack. It’s an observation of how cause and effect works in human dynamics. The fact that you're reducing it to personal anecdotes proves how emotionally loaded even basic male preferences have become in today's dating market.

[Razp_Sorbet]

There is no bigger picture. You're talking about a preference. You are also not explaining any situation where a woman has become defensive about this, so at this point all I have is your word which is frankly unreliable and biased.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

You’re being a prime example yourself believe it or not—when men express boundaries or talk about behaviors that turn them off, some women become defensive, dismissive, or accuse them of being ‘biased’ instead of engaging with the substance of the issue. That is the bigger picture, and this thread is the perfect example of it. Till then I Appreciate the demonstration.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Me asking for examples of this in real life and explaining that your preference isn't everyone's is not being defensive.

I simply want an explanation of this because I cannot imagine it happening in a normal context.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

You’re trying to reframe this into a neutral question now, but earlier you dismissed the point entirely, called my word biased, and refused to acknowledge the bigger picture. That’s not curiosity—that’s defensiveness. And again, this interaction continues to prove the exact behavior I was talking about: deny, deflect, and derail when male standards are brought up. No further example needed—this thread is one

[Razp_Sorbet]

No, I said only having your word to go on is biased. It's interesting that you refuse to give examples...

[Filthy_Immigrant]

I’m not refusing to give examples. I pointed out that you made yourself an example in this post alone and you did is repeated refusal to engage with the core point—that's the example right there. That was clear, and it remains true. If you genuinely can’t see how your defensiveness validates the point about women reacting this way to male standards, then we’re done here. No need to argue with the mirror.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Deflection at it's finest. Just say you can't answer my question.

[On_cloud_wine]

I have a natural habit of doing that when I feel someone catches feelings