Someone approaches your partner and starts flirting with them right in front of you. Do you let your partner handle it, or do you handle it yourself?

[HawkPerception]

Let my partner handle it

I handle it

[Med_guy1978]

Let her handle it and intervene only if necessary. I'm not the jealous type and I understand some men will approach. Okay, most men look and see if she is in the company of a man before they decide to make a move or not. Some seeing her in the company of a man still might approach, potentially this would be considered bad play but then I understand he could think I (the girls company) could be a friend if we're not kissing, cuddling or holding hands. So okay fine, he approaches in a respectful friendly way. You'd then expect her to say thank you but sorry I'm with my boyfriend/husband/partner. Then he apologises and leaves, that kinda scenario is completely acceptable in my view. If he was being persistent then I'd have to intervene. Then you could be in a bar or club with her or even in a group and a guy approaches her as happened to me (us) a while ago. I'm not going to react and I didn't as she knows many people and he could be her friend or aqauintance so I left them to it. The same for me and I'd expect her to understand that I know many people and will talk to many people in a familiar environment.

[HawkPerception]

This pretty much sums up my own view. Well said.

[Med_guy1978]

😎👍🏻🍻

[LifeHitMeandRan]

I would let my partner handle it. This would show me her true character. Of course, if she is in danger I will step in.

[DishLady]

So any partner or date I’ve ever had I think we both did the same thing automatically. A very subtle “hey” with a big smile and a light touch to the arm or back, and standing a little close/leaning. There’s not much more to say, there’s no glaring, etc. you just lean into each other very sli FH fly in some way.


I’ve seen a lot of older married couples get into it, though, esp the husbands. It’s VERY cute to see an old guy look defensive and bark, “Hey that’s my wife!” to a young guy who is possibly just asking if the older lady needs a hand or has the time or whatever. The lady will always turn to the guy and smile bc it makes her feel young and pretty to still be “protected” by her guy.


Young guys or gals who make a big fuss or get too handsy to make some kind of a point are just too much in my opinion. If you’re the jealous type and can’t handle a person so much as talking to your person (not trusting your person to take care of it) then that’s a red flag. ALSO, if your person/date is actually entertaining the flirtation (feeding into it), that’s a red flag.

[Luopio27]

This is the smartest move I've heard. If you 2 start holding hands, hugging while both facing same derection (stomach to back, not stomach to stomach), that shows enough intimacy to show there is no chance for anyone to break the bond!

[DishLady]

@Luopio27 Yeah, bc i don't like a scene. There's no need for it.

[ohsheeT]

Every girl i ever dated i would have not said a word because I know that they would have handled it if it took more than 3 to 5 min they would turn look at me and very quietly say babe go ahead

And only one time that has happen and I'm glad because I wanted to stand up so bad this guy was so fvking rude and loud I'm so glad she she let me do because I didn't say one word
All I heard was what are you going to do i did it my girlfriend said damn baby

Then she said tell your friend when he wakes up that's what he's going to do

I wish she wouldn't said anything

[OlderAndWiser]

My wife is a mild-mannered, reserved, introverted Chinese woman and I doubt she would know how to respond, so I would step in and explain what the guy needs to do to retain possession of his testicles. (And I ALWAYS have a knife in my pocket.)

[LEETSBEREAL]

😂😂😂😂😂

[Finchie40]

Let her handle it , unless she signals me for help , basically a guy that doesn’t take No for an answer , which unfortunately there are a lot f people that do not know what the word No means.

[AviatorTom]

I respect my partner. I'd let her handle it. And if it gets out of control, I'll step in to assist.

[ShellyB]

I would think it’s funny and cute. JMO!

[blueonblack22]

Someone who does this literally no respect for you and is a 110% douche bag. It’s forgiveable if the other person (respectfully) approached your partner while they were alone and simply had no idea they were taken.

I once had a lesbian approach my ex girlfriend a while ago. This was tricky. Because at first I thought she was just a friendly girl just saying hi to my girlfriend. But the way she acted towards her and more importantly towards me started getting telling.

I acted friendly at first. But I then noticed her body language was real hostile towards me. She barely acknowledged I was there and acted like I was a “competitor” or some bs. My girlfriend didn’t know how to react either. But then I read between the lines and grabbed my then her hand. Said something along the lines of “my GIRLFRIEND and I were pleased to meet you” and we left.

We were in the arts district of Denver when this happened. I had a black friend hanging out with us. This lesbian was friendly to him and my girlfriend (of course) but she obviously didn’t like. All just because I am straight white man. That’s it.

I absolutely HATE woke white women. Hate them. Hate them. Hate them.

[NathanDavis]

they can handle it, have done that for most of their lives too... lol

I can only remember a couple of times in which they've actually done it in front of me... and it was funny... both times she "entertained it"

not as in... flirting back but, let them just go on to see how far they would take it and I was just there, quite curious too

it got too awkward for them I guess, and so they just bailed, lmao

both times happened at the same bar/restaurant so... maybe a bit of alcohol?

[molonski2]

It's important that she handle it

I have had in Melbourne Australia, I had a very exoctic looking European girlfriend with big hair , and this guy came and literally chucked a new iPhone on the table of this outdoor restaurant on the Yarra River , we were both like WTF? He left , it maybe 10 minutes , talking to others going around.. then he came back and said.

" So you haven't put your number in there yet? "

Braisen by any standards..

[HawkPerception]

That's wild man. Some dudes have no class

[molonski2]

Apparently this dude had been using the approach all day , this was maybe 10 years ago , but he was still much younger.

[MrOracle]

I let her handle it so as not to remove her own agency, but I am always ready to step in if she signals me. I can't remember the last time it was an issue, as most guys are respectful and since I don't drink and thus am not often around drunk guys, but I've gotten involved a couple times in the past. Likely I was still in my 20s.

[MissSunshine2]

I trust people until they prove they cannot be trusted. I'm not possessive; I'm going to leave it for them to deal with. If they prove they cannot be trusted, that's beyond my control, so I'll just accept it and regard it as a lucky escape.

[HawkPerception]

Well said

[BadApple69]

Let my partner handle it until the guy doesn’t except “go away” for an answer.
Years ago I was out at a club sitting at a table with a girl, a guy walks up and asked her to dance. I was ok with that. She said no and he walked away. I give the guy kudos for doing that. I didn’t own her and maybe she would have danced with him. That would just show where our relationship was in real time.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'll watch her. It's moments like that you get a clear idea of how she sees her relationship with you.

Personally, it's a red flag for me if she gets tripped up at all.

[HawkPerception]

Exactly

[77five]

Let him handle it. Seeing how they respond will give insight into what kind of person he is. If you can take my boyfriend, thank you for taking the trash out for me

[HawkPerception]

Exactly. Well said

[Screenwriter]

It's find to do a combo of approaches. Partner first and if it seems the flirter is a pest, you step in later to end the encounter. Gauge your stepping in on what;s going on as your partner handles it,

[Phoenix98]

I'll give them the chance to handle it as that will show me what her true character is and where her actual loyalties lie.

But if things escalate or the guy doesn't get the hint I'll step in and deal with it.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I feel it's his job to let them know first that he's taken and not interested. Then if they keep insisting that's when I step in. Same in reverse.

[Zack-Bann]

I wouldn’t take the personal offense lightly.
Even after she tells him off I might still get in his face simply because he saw me and thought he could step onto my territory unchallenged.


I’d like to think my partner would appreciate me being protective in such cases and not just a quiet pushover

[whocares1972]

First off all, nobody is approaching me or my boyfriend. We don't give off that vibe!! If it did happen, it's up to him to handle the situation, not me... it has nothing to do with me. ✌️

[LiamJHayden]

I observe. If she flirts back/bites, I walk away and lose her number. If she does not, and he persists, then I get him to buzz off.

[HawkPerception]

Well said

[sexy_bis]

I’ll let him handle it. I’ll interfere only if there is a strong need for me to do that. Otherwise, I trust him to make the right call.

[ariadneR]

I let him handle it. If he needs me to intervene. I'll know.

[midnightmoon05]

Hubby will do the right thing now.
before I had to step in.

[Twodogs0525]

I let them handle it. They usually just walked away from the guy.

[ManOnFire]

I'll let her handle it. Let her prove her loyalty to me, and I'll stand by and watch.

[worldscolide]

I pet her handle it. She's got really creative ways of making sure the jackass knows his place. I only intervene when she asks.

[objective_calendar]

Let them handle it. They can handle themself anyway.

[RingOfFire]

You kidding... Oh I'll handle it alright. It's not about jealousy it's about her safety and privacy.

[ella617281]

If my partner really loves me, he can handle it themselves and won't let the person flirt

[Steve-the-lion]

I would handle it myself as it is highly disrespectful to approach someone else's partner in front of them.

[todoletima]

Let him handle it but my would boyfriend step in if a guy approach me. He is quite jealous

[HawkPerception]

And do you like that?

[todoletima]

I don't know it felt normal to me

[arianna1414]

they can handle it if it happens

[MelaKnee]

I let my partner handle it

[Cidknee]

She can handle it unless she wants me to.

[Cidknee]

Then later when she isn't around I get that dude.

[RavVid]

It is pretty disrespectful.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

I'd handle it with violence.

[usernameobvious]

Oh I'm single

[HawkPerception]

The question assumes the scenario of you being in a relationship

[Mathiew]

Someday maybe I will do something.

[cantdistrubate]

I'd beat that guy up

[MereAnarchy]

I handle it. I'm flattered.

[oldtheseroads]

I'd handle it