Indian guys help please?

[Anonymous]

Story short, I'm in long distance relationship with "my fiance", I live in UK and he is in India. I need to work to be able to live but everything work related triggers him. I tried to ask him what to do ahead before it could happen, but he didn't want to find a solution, he just accused me of wanting freedom to be with other guys and doesn't understand I can't choose my co workers or not work right now.

So what happened was, I could bring some things from work to do at home and get paid for it and because my job isn't so close and they have a deadline to return the order, a guy at work (who is the supervisor) mentioned that if he lived close he could pick it up. So I talked to my guy before agreeing to this, but when I told him he just said straight no and wouldn't try to find out a solution. Then he started saying I don't understand how it is for him... it's a different culture and that I want freedom to be with others... and it hurts so badly because I'm struggling so much with the distance and I enjoy this job so much and it's a good distraction, and he just doesn't seem to care about my feelings. I even suggested to be on video call or call while this co worker picks up the things, but he didn't listen anything else. I know he has been previously cheated on but it's so not fair that I'm being accused unjustly for someone else's wrong doings, when I am 1000% committed to him. Is it so wrong that I work hard to earn money to be able to be together as soon as possible, and i have a job I enjoy doing, to avoid feeling so much pain from being far from him. Why if I enjoy my job it's because I want another man? Can someone please explain me this? I love this man with all my heart and I know whoever answers will say to leave him, but how can I leave someone who I love? And i can see he is in pain and needs healing but how exactly can I help him?

Please be as honest as you can I need any kind of advice/opinion I can get, as i really want to try hard to understand him.

[Anonymous]

He is next level insecure and jealous if he sees male coworkers as a threat. he's not providing a solution because there isn't a problem in the first place. If he works somewhere, what about female coworkers? You can use the same card against him. he's being unnecessarilly unreasonable during this tough period of you two being away. And his accusation of you wanting freedom to be with other guys is uncalled for and extremely disrespectful. He is indirectly telling you he doesn't trust you. How can you be with someone like that?

In case you are wondering, I am from the the same culture but not unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Hope you know as soon as you marry him you'll see his true colours. Most indians are very traditional, he won't allow you to work, you'll be a unhappy housewife, he already acting very controlling and you not married yet. You ignore the red flags. Talking about love, you'll see his definition of love sooner rather than later.

[spartan55]

Weird, I've never known Indian dudes to be so jealous. 🙄

[slatyb]

End this, meet someone local.